Straight, but need advice from someone who's gay

[Counselor]

I do support her though, she'll always be my little sister..

^Keep that, and you'll do fine.

[ardus]

Pflag http://community.pflag.org/Page.aspx?pid=194&srcid=-2

That is a place/site for you to start browsing through.

The mere thought that you equate girly-girl as being straight tells me you have lead a fairly sheltered life when it comes to LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender/transsexual) stuff.

The reality is that a large chunk of the LGB community act and behave in public like 'normal' people of their gender. Thus there are very womanly lesbians and very manly gay men. Its is highly likely that a decent chunk of your acquaintances are LGB, you don't know because their behaviors is what you equate with being 'normal' of their gender and most likely you have expectations for Lesbians to be bull-dikes ad gays to be effeminate lispy things.

I fear you have a bit of a learning curve ahead of you when it comes to the LGBT community. Thus I strongly suggest you go to that Pflag site (Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays) and find a chapter in your area and find similar straight people who have been exactly where you are today.

Your initial reaction falls into nominal parameters (A better term than "normal") and is to be expected.

Should you talk to her about it? Do you need to talk? Do you need to get to know this aspect of your sister better? If yes then yeah, talk to her about it.

If you approach with honesty and sincerity and a somewhat open mind you may actually learn a great deal of positive things.

Of course this is not a conversation you initiate at the family dinner table.

We are subtley lurking everywhere. The few people I have told who were not gay had mostly the same reaction. "Really, I'd never have thought that." I'm not the stereotypical gay man. I'm a NCO in the Army, I like sports, and guns, and cars and jumping out of airplanes and cooking, and beer and whiskey and wine lol.

Every new cycle I look at the 220-230 privates and secretly think to myself, if statistics hold up there are 5-10 guys in this group that like guys.

Richard

[Drew]

Hey, I'm sure your sister appreciates it, and I'd like to echo what everyone has said above, as it's solid advice. Don't go around talking about it if she hasn't told you explicitly that it's ok, and let her know it's cool and that she'll always be your little sis. Maybe slip her a note saying "proud of you!" or something if you're not super close enough to have a Full House-style heart-to-heart. Let her know you're available for her.

[ManicReptile21]

If you support her. You simply have to tell her. Thats enough. That's the most and that's what she wants. Acceptance-respect- and love. I think you can pull from your private stash for your little sister.

[Vince90]

You know, I hate to admit, that, I never imagined feeling this way. I was always kind of "eh" about gay people..I used to joke around about them in high school with my friends, I never made fun of them, but I didn't really support gay marriage, and thought it was kind of gross. I figured if I ever had a family member come out, I'd freak out, and probably not want to be around them anymore, but that's not the case at all. I haven't once questioned my love for my sister since she told me. I think it's changed me, I'm glad it has, I think it's made me a total supporter of gay marriage..

[Miles]

Love =/= sex =/= marriage. One love is no better than the other. Gay sex is no grosser than straight sex. Marriage will allow gays to suffer equally to straights.

Good on you for supporting your sister.

[Vince90]

Love =/= sex =/= marriage. One love is no better than the other. Gay sex is no grosser than straight sex. Marriage will allow gays to suffer equally to straights.

Good on you for supporting your sister.

Yeah, I finally realized that.

[Nick9]

That's ok, Vince. I am glad you have made that step and understand that we are not different and we want the same thing that straight people want - to find love and be happy.