KawaiiKitty Wrote:I dunno? because you owe to your partner to be truthful to them maybe? You know just some little thing like honesty or some such. Keeping them in the dark about something they should know about is just as much of a lie as telling them a falsehood to their face. Maybe youre ok lying to your partner(s)? but Im not in the habit of it. By condoning his action of keeping the information from his bf you are condoning his act of cheating. Youre basically saying its ok to cheat as long as his bf doesnt find out about it.
This I really agree with.. though I think in the end it all comes down to what's really important to the people in the relationship.
For me, honesty is #1. I've been lied to all my life (mainly by family, won't go into that).. but if someone lies to me, it hurts far worse than coming out and being honest about something. At the same time, Monogamy is also incredibly important to me, so I would absolutely refuse to be in any other sort of relationship.
Sure, I believe in second chances.. but it all depends on the history of the relationship, what happened, etc..
People often cheat for a reason, and it's usually more than "I just got too drunk".
It seems though that the OP here has a bit of a different type of relationship than I would be willing to engage in. In my view I think it's ridiculous to say that jerking off another guy isn't cheating.. but to each their own. Like I said, it all comes down to the people in the relationship and what they choose to accept. Everyone has their own expectations.
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I didn't read the 3rd page until now, so it seems I completely skipped over the hostility.. but whatever, my reply still states my opinion on the issue :p. Glad to hear you came clean though, and everything is well..