Oh my! His penis was uncommonly LARGE!

[MisterTinkles]

As far as I'm concerned "pictures or it didn't happen".

Dirty..........

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Dirty..........

Come on 11 inches of dick - how often does one get to see something like THAT?

Hell I most likely would have thrown all of my prudish notions aside to cop a feel.... Just for the sheer curiosity of that monster.:tongue:

[KawaiiKitty]

Number one, read what he's posted, he already told him what happened, so your whole argument is moot.

Number two, don't presume to talk to ME about DADT, as I lived through it, and I know the reality of being a Soldier and the attitude and prejudices that we still face if we come out regardless of the orders given by the President.
Richard

lol there you go again telling me what I can and cant have an opinion on. lol Free country and all like that remember? i am sorry you had to go through that but what youre portraying now is the same exact thing. Youre supporting a DADT policy when it comes to cheating.

And I did read his whole post and from what I read it sounded like he cheated on his bf and only told his bf cause he was found out because of the message board screw up.

[Tyrion]

I dunno? because you owe to your partner to be truthful to them maybe? You know just some little thing like honesty or some such. Keeping them in the dark about something they should know about is just as much of a lie as telling them a falsehood to their face. Maybe youre ok lying to your partner(s)? but Im not in the habit of it. By condoning his action of keeping the information from his bf you are condoning his act of cheating. Youre basically saying its ok to cheat as long as his bf doesnt find out about it.

This I really agree with.. though I think in the end it all comes down to what's really important to the people in the relationship.

For me, honesty is #1. I've been lied to all my life (mainly by family, won't go into that).. but if someone lies to me, it hurts far worse than coming out and being honest about something. At the same time, Monogamy is also incredibly important to me, so I would absolutely refuse to be in any other sort of relationship.

Sure, I believe in second chances.. but it all depends on the history of the relationship, what happened, etc..

People often cheat for a reason, and it's usually more than "I just got too drunk".

It seems though that the OP here has a bit of a different type of relationship than I would be willing to engage in. In my view I think it's ridiculous to say that jerking off another guy isn't cheating.. but to each their own. Like I said, it all comes down to the people in the relationship and what they choose to accept. Everyone has their own expectations.

-edit

I didn't read the 3rd page until now, so it seems I completely skipped over the hostility.. but whatever, my reply still states my opinion on the issue :p. Glad to hear you came clean though, and everything is well..

[ardus]

Number one, read what he's posted, he already told him what happened, so your whole argument is moot.

Number two, don't presume to talk to ME about DADT, as I lived through it, and I know the reality of being a Soldier and the attitude and prejudices that we still face if we come out regardless of the orders given by the President.
Richard

Please point to where I tell you what opinion you can and can't have.
Richard

[KawaiiKitty]

Quote:
Originally Posted by ardus
Number one, read what he's posted, he already told him what happened, so your whole argument is moot.

Number two, don't presume to talk to ME about DADT, as I lived through it, and I know the reality of being a Soldier and the attitude and prejudices that we still face if we come out regardless of the orders given by the President.
Richard
Please point to where I tell you what opinion you can and can't have.
Richard

I bolded it, just for you so you may see the error of your ways.

[ardus]

Quote:
Originally Posted by ardus
Number one, read what he's posted, he already told him what happened, so your whole argument is moot.

Number two, don't presume to talk to ME about DADT, as I lived through it, and I know the reality of being a Soldier and the attitude and prejudices that we still face if we come out regardless of the orders given by the President.
Richard
Please point to where I tell you what opinion you can and can't have.
Richard

I bolded it, just for you so you may see the error of your ways.

If you actually read what I wrote it says don't presume to talk to me about dadt.

It says nothing about your opinion, it speaks of your actions.

Richard

[KawaiiKitty]

OKAY...NOW I think I am starting to see what's up with you! You were cheated on at some point, right? Which must have been the fault of the gay community because if we all just acted more mainstream that wouldn't have happened.
News Flash: The only person at fault if you couldn't keep your man is: You.

Actually that couldnt be further from the truth. Ive never been cheated on in my life. When Ive gone into past relationship I make sure my bf knows and understand that I dont stand for cheating in any form. Which I cant believe I should even have to say that, but I do apparently. My current bf knows this and 200% agrees with me. So News Flash: The only person at fault for cheating on their bf and then keeping it a secret only to be a dumbass and spread it all over a message board is: YOU.

[KawaiiKitty]

OKAY...NOW I think I am starting to see what's up with you! You were cheated on at some point, right? Which must have been the fault of the gay community because if we all just acted more mainstream that wouldn't have happened.
News Flash: The only person at fault if you couldn't keep your man is: You.

See it? sure maybe as just a novelty? I probably would be asking him to put it away soon though as it would make me uncomfortable. But to touch it and admit to jerking him off? nopenopenope don't see that happening in this lifetime or the next. Not while I have a bf. To share something so intimate and special outside of your relationship is very disrespectful to your SO.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

And I did read his whole post and from what I read it sounded like he cheated on his bf and only told his bf cause he was found out because of the message board screw up.

Interesting.

I think the definition of cheating must be set first - I fear that different people have different ideas. For instance some think that just having a Grind'r Ap on your phone is cheating, while others will allow everything except penetrative sex (oral and/or anal) to be 'cheating'.

My second Partner thought my smiling at anyone was 'cheating' and he took great offense to my smiling at people.... Different people have different standards I guess.

Clearly you have a clear set of 'rules' that define 'cheating' that are different than the Op's.