Is this guy interested in me? Not sure if I should pursue this...
07-27-2013, 07:42 AM
To keep my backstory simple, I am kind of inept when it comes to this sort of thing. There have been several times where I've thought that someone was expressing romantic interest in me, and I've been totally wrong, so I'm not getting my hopes up on this but I wanted outside opinions.
Anyway, I always go to the same gas station on the way home from work/school/whatever else, and am there a couple of times a week on average. There's one guy who works there (and has for maybe a month or so now) who I have this creeping feeling is interested in me— like I said, I'm inept at reading this kind of thing, but it appears that way.
Not to further any stereotypes, but he does talk a bit effeminately— not overtly flamboyant, but, you know, I can tell. It's noticeable; the way he speaks is really soft and feminine-sounding. He's helped me multiple times there over the past month or so, and every time has been extremely friendly; really upbeat and smiley towards me, makes a lot of eye contact, etc. I was there last week and I saw him motion to his co-worker to help the woman across from me who had been there first (didn't make out what he said to him), and then proceeded to help me instead; I didn't think anything of it until after I left, but it seemed like he did it on purpose so that he'd have the opportunity to help me rather than her. A few days later I came back to fill my tank before going on a road trip I was making the next morning to Seattle for a concert— it was a bit late and there wasn't really anyone else there, and he helped me again. Super friendly as always, made a lot of eye contact with me. Now, I wouldn't typically think much of this, but what he did next has made me seriously wonder— after my tank was filled, he came to my window and crouched down low enough to look into the car at me and made hardcore straightforward eye contact with me, and then asked me if I needed my receipt— I said no, and he kind of sat there for a second or two and was about to say something and then stopped himself, and said instead "You have a lovely night"— all while making direct eye contact with me. I kind of laughed and told him to do the same, and he just waved and smiled as I drove off.
Honestly, I was sort of taken aback by it. Usually people at gas stations barely acknowledge you as a human being (and who can blame them?), and none of the people who work there have ever been that friendly or direct with me. It stood out to me because was extremely unusual; most of my experiences at gas stations are pretty mundane.
So basically my question is,
1) Is it likely this guy is gay?
and 2) Is he possibly interested in me, or am I reading this completely wrong?
I've never had a straight guy look me in the face, smiling, and tell me to have a "lovely night"— kind of bold. And he does, like I said, seem effeminate. When he stopped himself before saying it, it seemed like he wanted to say something and almost did but then held back and opted for the "have a lovely night" thing instead. That's how it came off at least. I dunno. Am I wrong to infer that this guy might be interested in me, and if he likely is, what's the best way to approach this?
I considered just continuing to go there as I always do and see if he makes a bolder move toward me, but I'm not sure about that. I'm not typically an aggressor in any facet of my life, so I'm hoping if he is interested that he makes the first move. I've yet to have a full conversation with him, but I'm wondering if I should start one or wait for him to. The only problem with that is that it's sometimes busy there and he wouldn't have a whole lot of time to talk.
Anyway, yeah, am I interpreting this the wrong way, or is there something going on there? It just strikes me as totally unusual, and the past few times I've gone there I get this feeling that he's almost flirting with me. I do think he's cute too, for the record.
Anyway, I always go to the same gas station on the way home from work/school/whatever else, and am there a couple of times a week on average. There's one guy who works there (and has for maybe a month or so now) who I have this creeping feeling is interested in me— like I said, I'm inept at reading this kind of thing, but it appears that way.
Not to further any stereotypes, but he does talk a bit effeminately— not overtly flamboyant, but, you know, I can tell. It's noticeable; the way he speaks is really soft and feminine-sounding. He's helped me multiple times there over the past month or so, and every time has been extremely friendly; really upbeat and smiley towards me, makes a lot of eye contact, etc. I was there last week and I saw him motion to his co-worker to help the woman across from me who had been there first (didn't make out what he said to him), and then proceeded to help me instead; I didn't think anything of it until after I left, but it seemed like he did it on purpose so that he'd have the opportunity to help me rather than her. A few days later I came back to fill my tank before going on a road trip I was making the next morning to Seattle for a concert— it was a bit late and there wasn't really anyone else there, and he helped me again. Super friendly as always, made a lot of eye contact with me. Now, I wouldn't typically think much of this, but what he did next has made me seriously wonder— after my tank was filled, he came to my window and crouched down low enough to look into the car at me and made hardcore straightforward eye contact with me, and then asked me if I needed my receipt— I said no, and he kind of sat there for a second or two and was about to say something and then stopped himself, and said instead "You have a lovely night"— all while making direct eye contact with me. I kind of laughed and told him to do the same, and he just waved and smiled as I drove off.
Honestly, I was sort of taken aback by it. Usually people at gas stations barely acknowledge you as a human being (and who can blame them?), and none of the people who work there have ever been that friendly or direct with me. It stood out to me because was extremely unusual; most of my experiences at gas stations are pretty mundane.
So basically my question is,
1) Is it likely this guy is gay?
and 2) Is he possibly interested in me, or am I reading this completely wrong?
I've never had a straight guy look me in the face, smiling, and tell me to have a "lovely night"— kind of bold. And he does, like I said, seem effeminate. When he stopped himself before saying it, it seemed like he wanted to say something and almost did but then held back and opted for the "have a lovely night" thing instead. That's how it came off at least. I dunno. Am I wrong to infer that this guy might be interested in me, and if he likely is, what's the best way to approach this?
I considered just continuing to go there as I always do and see if he makes a bolder move toward me, but I'm not sure about that. I'm not typically an aggressor in any facet of my life, so I'm hoping if he is interested that he makes the first move. I've yet to have a full conversation with him, but I'm wondering if I should start one or wait for him to. The only problem with that is that it's sometimes busy there and he wouldn't have a whole lot of time to talk.
Anyway, yeah, am I interpreting this the wrong way, or is there something going on there? It just strikes me as totally unusual, and the past few times I've gone there I get this feeling that he's almost flirting with me. I do think he's cute too, for the record.
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