Love younger guys, repulsed by older guys. But I am old. What to do?
07-29-2013, 10:16 PM
Thanks for the answers
Q: "The best thing would be to overcome that and learn to appreciate people for something other than their looks and/or age"
A: Sure I can appreciate them as friends. But at some point I'm going to be sleeping with them, and then comes the revulsion. Or are you saying that if I take the time to get to know someone then perhaps the sense of revulsion might diminish or go away completely?
Q: "mens personalities and traits tend to stop at the time they were most happiest"
A: Well I certainly wasn't happy all of the time when I was young. But then I was straight all of that time. I only realised I was bisexual when I discovered a twink porn site. Porn has perhaps made me gay.
But I love young guys.
Perhaps it is my body combining my love for a (non existant) child that I would have had by now had I married, with a sexual desire, and wrapped them up into one person.
You might say that is paedophilia, which it is in a sense, but the guys I fancy are all of legal age, or a little older than it (I prefer 23 year olds).
Q: "I have "avenues" for looking for younger men"
A: Would you care to tell us what these are please? Or are they a "trade secret" lol
Q: "rather than young guy who doesn't know a thing about relationships. "
A: Oops I don't know anything about relationships other than what I've read online. Cos I haven't had one lasting for more than 4 weeks (that was a japanese guy who went off me).
Q: "time to settle down and grow up"
A: You may be right. But the trouble is normally I am only interested in gay men when I get horny. Then I go onto gaydar.co.uk chat rooms and try to pick someone up. I am successful around 20% of the time. It is only rarely that I find myself "pining" for men, and I guess that is when I am looking for a relationship. But however much I would love to fall in love with a cute sexy 21 year old puppy boy I know logically that in the near future, on past form, I'd get bored with him and start doing something totally unrelated to sex, such as boating or watching youtube videos, or suchlike.
Sexual health is very important to me - I get tested every year, and am neg.
I've never had a relationship - I have sex with guys, but the ones I want to go back to have generally not been interested in continuing a relationship. Which is a shame. But another reason is that they are foreigners. The problem with this is their culture is different, and I can't talk about all the things that happened in the UK in the past. And that makes me feel lonely.
I think a nice 30-year old UK-born boyfriend might be nice. I'll see who I can find.
I think I need to go to some gay social events, and just chat to guys without specifically trying to pick them up. I went down to a gay bar yesterday and talked to three guys all of whom were a little older than me, and actually they weren't too bad. I put out of my mind the possibility that there wanted to get me into bed (as they were older than me) and thought sod it I don't care - they're not going to get any nookie off me. And I found them to be quite OK.
But then the conversation dried up, and I could feel a sense of them possibly hating something I had said, or were laughing at me, so I left, with them saying goodbye but not with so much friendliness. Oh well live and learn.
I am also considering trying out gay pickup. That's where you go into gay areas and chat to guys on the streets. Stop and ask them for directions, and say you like them (the guys not the directions) and try to get their numbers. Might be a laugh. If I am not punched by a straight guy lol.
Q: "The best thing would be to overcome that and learn to appreciate people for something other than their looks and/or age"
A: Sure I can appreciate them as friends. But at some point I'm going to be sleeping with them, and then comes the revulsion. Or are you saying that if I take the time to get to know someone then perhaps the sense of revulsion might diminish or go away completely?
Q: "mens personalities and traits tend to stop at the time they were most happiest"
A: Well I certainly wasn't happy all of the time when I was young. But then I was straight all of that time. I only realised I was bisexual when I discovered a twink porn site. Porn has perhaps made me gay.
But I love young guys.
Perhaps it is my body combining my love for a (non existant) child that I would have had by now had I married, with a sexual desire, and wrapped them up into one person.
You might say that is paedophilia, which it is in a sense, but the guys I fancy are all of legal age, or a little older than it (I prefer 23 year olds).
Q: "I have "avenues" for looking for younger men"
A: Would you care to tell us what these are please? Or are they a "trade secret" lol
Q: "rather than young guy who doesn't know a thing about relationships. "
A: Oops I don't know anything about relationships other than what I've read online. Cos I haven't had one lasting for more than 4 weeks (that was a japanese guy who went off me).
Q: "time to settle down and grow up"
A: You may be right. But the trouble is normally I am only interested in gay men when I get horny. Then I go onto gaydar.co.uk chat rooms and try to pick someone up. I am successful around 20% of the time. It is only rarely that I find myself "pining" for men, and I guess that is when I am looking for a relationship. But however much I would love to fall in love with a cute sexy 21 year old puppy boy I know logically that in the near future, on past form, I'd get bored with him and start doing something totally unrelated to sex, such as boating or watching youtube videos, or suchlike.
Sexual health is very important to me - I get tested every year, and am neg.
I've never had a relationship - I have sex with guys, but the ones I want to go back to have generally not been interested in continuing a relationship. Which is a shame. But another reason is that they are foreigners. The problem with this is their culture is different, and I can't talk about all the things that happened in the UK in the past. And that makes me feel lonely.
I think a nice 30-year old UK-born boyfriend might be nice. I'll see who I can find.
I think I need to go to some gay social events, and just chat to guys without specifically trying to pick them up. I went down to a gay bar yesterday and talked to three guys all of whom were a little older than me, and actually they weren't too bad. I put out of my mind the possibility that there wanted to get me into bed (as they were older than me) and thought sod it I don't care - they're not going to get any nookie off me. And I found them to be quite OK.
But then the conversation dried up, and I could feel a sense of them possibly hating something I had said, or were laughing at me, so I left, with them saying goodbye but not with so much friendliness. Oh well live and learn.
I am also considering trying out gay pickup. That's where you go into gay areas and chat to guys on the streets. Stop and ask them for directions, and say you like them (the guys not the directions) and try to get their numbers. Might be a laugh. If I am not punched by a straight guy lol.
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