Would you ever get married?

[matty7]

nar - wouldn't wish me on anyone if im honest ,,, not for life anyway - if theres a guy who could put up with me then I wpuldnt marry them - I put them up for a nobel prize

[tavi]

My church doesn't say it's wrong? Still not getting the contradiction.

I assume you don't know a whole lot about Christianity or the bible, based on your post.. So I won't go into detail about why your assumption that Christians are supposed to be against gay marriage is wrong. But, it is.

I don't understand how you can judge a man based on one thing I say about him. My pastor's a great guy, he really helps a lot of people and is a genuinely nice person. I think it's a shame you're so judgmental when you don't know anything about him.

I didnt judge him, i believe you, its good he helps people, im happy for people if they wanna get married, but i wouldnt.

[Tim18]

I think might get married, if I found the right guy.

[Pix]

Another thing to be clear: when I speak of marriage, I speak of the legal contract outside of any religion, something any Justice of the Peace or captain at sea could do. Atheists marry all the time without a church involved.

I do not speak of religious ceremonies, that is something completely different to me (as it should be with the separation of church & state). Though even then plenty of religions aren't against gay marriage. And as much as it must shock people, there are other religions besides Christianity, Judaism, and Islam. The Unitarians are pretty big and Wicca also has members in every US state and can be found all over the world (just look up Witchvox for examples) and those are just 2 examples of those nearly always accepting of gay love & marriage.

Furthermore, the Bible endorses slavery (and was once used to justify it), wants women to keep their heads covered, stone disobedient children, etc, but as Christians became more civilized they overlooked the more barbaric aspects and adapted, so it's no surprise that some Christians are already adapting yet again and accepting gay people. Christianity has always been divided on what parts of the Bible matter and what does not (and there is NO Christian denomination that embraces ALL of the Bible, I expect that's impossible anyway) along with what specific passages mean. So again with a separation of church & state if a Christian church chooses to marry gays that should be their decision (or not to marry them, though just to be clear I mean for that specific church only rather than all of Christendom and I also think they should have the right to refuse to marry interracial couples if they have that interpretation, though again ONLY for themselves, not other churches, and I'd hope people would abandon such bigoted churches, but alas, religion does NOT make bad people good contrary to popular belief).

[Chase]

I do.




But I'd have to really know the guy. I once knew a girl in high school who said she'd dump a guy and tell him off if he didn't propose to her after 3 months of dating. Three months is enough to build a strong bond, fall in love, but still seems like a long shot to a life long commitment to me.

[MisterTinkles]

Marriage is a construct of the religious sect.

I want to be committed to someone for the rest of my life, but I dont want to be "married".

[Pix]

I once knew a girl in high school who said she'd dump a guy and tell him off if he didn't propose to her after 3 months of dating. Three months is enough to build a strong bond, fall in love, but still seems like a long shot to a life long commitment to me.

Even worse, you can't tell if in 3 months if it's just a "chemical high" that will inevitably fade after a year or two. When the chemical high fades than what was once only mildly annoying (or even so cute!) become intolerable and the mind and eye wanders...

The kind of love (especially romantic) that endures a lifetime is rare and shouldn't be entered into lightly. I'd never agree to marry someone until after 2 years and 3 months (I added 3 months just cause I like the number 23 :tongue: ) anyway. I've heard enough Jerry Springer worthy horror stories of even moving in together too soon! (Granted, I have been guilty of this, but at least I learned better!)

I think she must have taken those Disney movies to heart and mistaken them for reality, you know love at first sight, marriage by the end of the movie (IIRC, Little Mermaid even gave her like 3 days for the "kiss of true love") and failed to see it's not real life.

But then I've met all kinds of absurd teens (to be fair, also adults), like one who said she never shaved her legs with other girls present because that would make her a lesbian! And she said this on a public bus apparently oblivious to how stupid she sounded!

[Waylon777]

Defintiely Some day.

[megumidesu]

i married my wife because i love her and i want half her stuff

mostly the love thing though

[Ryocchi]

I come from a family whose parents who have been throught all, long sckness, accidents, bad times, good times, parents who when they need each other they drop everything to support each other, parents who tells me time and again they love me, with a solid 40 years long marriage and a relationship longer than that, parents who yell and are divorcing every other morning and then they lunch together a few hours later, as if nothing happened, parents who only 2 times that i remember have slept in different rooms and even so they made up the next day, if that doesn't give you my stane in marriage then I should tell you.

Yes.

If I ever find the man that i will love to spend the rest of my life with I will marry him and begin my own family.