Would you ever get married?

[Hikari]

I am already (^____^)V

[starbelly]

Definitely. I'm the kind of person who's very intent on finding someone and settling down with them. Obviously the connection and bond has to be there for it to last, but that's what I want anyway, and if the conditions were right, I would definitely marry the guy. Nothing fancy or ridiculous for a wedding (maybe a small ceremony with family and a couple of friends, if that), but marriage is definitely something I'd want at some point. I look at it basically as a celebration of your bond to each other and your ultimate gratitude. Marriages are beautiful if they're done right. Haha.

[Wade]

Why are you all so intent on making God sad?

[James]

Here in Dona Ana county, new mexico, they have been issuing marriage license's for the past few weeks, many of my friends who have been together for years tied the knot, and as the irs said it will treat all marriages the same if the state where they got married approves same sex marriages irregardless of which state they live in now, also gives that benifit to marriage, Jim

[Dreamer]

That was me at your age, maybe one day you'll realize that there is more to life than doing whatever you please whenever you want and having whatever you want, like when you hit hard times and none of your fair weather let's go party RIGHT NOW friends take you seriously and you start longing for someone close. Someone who will provide all the qualities that you get out of each friend or passing lover. He will hold you and love you just as you are, even when you've had too much to drink and your sick in the bathroom and he's right there with you and he's there when you wake up. And it does give you purpose in life because you are equally there for him when he needs you. I was very selfish and spoiled throughout most of my life. I was also very stubborn and mostly, dumb. I thought the way things, that marriage is an obsolete institution and that it would hold me back, even being in a committed relationship would. When I started to realize I was getting older and I wasn't that naive little 23 year old with the hot bum anymore and the only people I had in my life were friends, it started to feel pretty lonely. I'm not saying sex is over once you get older because I've debunked that myth pretty good. I still on occasion get hit on when I am in the city by myself and that young crazy me would totally have thought nothing of ruining the trust and love my husband and I have worked so hard to build since we've been together, to give in to the attention of a passing stranger- to stroke my ego and go off to have an anonymous encounter with that person just because. Because I am free? Why? So what? Even if I allowed myself the freedom to do whatever I wanted like that, where would it get me other than brief interludes of physical satisfaction? That guy ain't here right now... he's gone. My husband is, though. Satisfying him is by far the sexiest achievement for me. It's easy to have great sex with a stranger or new boyfriend. Try maintaining that level of happiness day in and day out for years. Didn't think so, it takes a lot of discipline and commitment and while you do lose that "freedom" it's give and take and you also gain a lot you don't get out of anything less binding. Not to mention a healthy relationship should never be that restrictive anyway. Not sure who you've considered for marriage but a great man will support you in anything you do or talk sense into you if you run the risk of doing something really stupid. Not hold you back. So unless you're just a perpetually self centered and stingy person, don't lock yourself out of the idea. Be open minded about it that way if that awesome one-of-a-kind man wonders into your life at unexpectedly and takes you by storm, you don't make the dumbest mistake of your life and send him running and end up all alone when you are finally too old to deal with the drama of casual dating and then regret it later. Trust me on this, I know.

First of all,
I don't do random hookups with strangers.

That's never been my thing,
nor do I serial date everyone in my proximity.

At the moment,
I am celibate,
if anything.

Intimate relationships are last on my "to do list".

Just because I prefer being alone,
and drama-free,
doesn't make me a self-centered slut.

If it ever came down to it,
I can date,
and have long-term relationships,
without getting married.

That "white picket fence" scenario
doesn't make for the ideal goal in life
for every person on this planet,
just because it suits you,
and many others.

I have my goals and dreams in life,
and they don't include being married.

Who are you to call me selfish for that?.... and naive?

That's just rude.

I'm one of the most selfless people
you'd ever meet....
so much so
that it gets me in trouble way too much..

Also,
I haven't any "let's go party RIGHT NOW" friends,
because I'm not that kind of person.

I enjoy and appreciate the peace and quiet
of maintaining a humble way of living.

Discipline and commitment can be achieved
without getting married to someone.

Not having any desire to get married
doesn't make me a spoiled wild-child
who gets everything he wants,
when he wants it.

Up to this point,
I've had a rough underprivileged life,
with more than it's share of hard times,
and wanting to achieve a comfortable one,
for myself, one day, is not a bad thing.

I understand and respect
the urgency for gay men
to want to get married...
I'm just not one of them.

Sorry to be in the minority.

It doesn't make be a dumb or bad person.

We all have our own priorities and preferences in life.

Mine just happen to exclude the husband,
two kids, and white picket fence ideal,
favored by so many.

[megumidesu]

First of all,
I don't do random hookups with strangers.

That's never been my thing,
nor do I serial date everyone in my proximity.

At the moment,
I am celibate,
if anything.

Intimate relationships are last on my "to do list".

Just because I prefer being alone,
and drama-free,
doesn't make me a self-centered slut.

If it ever came down to it,
I can date,
and have long-term relationships,
without getting married.

That "white picket fence" scenario
doesn't make for the ideal goal in life
for every person on this planet,
just because it suits you,
and many others.

I have my goals and dreams in life,
and they don't include being married.

Who are you to call me selfish for that?.... and naive?

That's just rude.

I'm one of the most selfless people,
you'd ever meet,
so much so
that it gets me in trouble a lot.

Also, I haven't any "let's go party RIGHT NOW" friends,
because I'm not that kind of person.

I enjoy and appreciate the peace and quiet
of maintaining a humble way of living.

Discipline and commitment can be achieved
without getting married to someone.

Not having any desire to get married
doesn't make me spoiled wild-child
who gets everything he wants,
when he wants it.

Up to this point,
I've had a rough underprivileged life,
and wanting to achieve a comfortable one,
for myself, one day, is not a bad thing.

I understand and respect
the urgency for gay men
to want to get married...
I'm just not one of them.

Sorry to be in the minority.

It doesn't make be a dumb or bad person.

We all have our own priorities and preferences in life.

Mine just happen to exclude the husband,
two kids, and white picket fence ideal,
favored by so many.

just out of curiosity , why do you type your posts that way ?

[Dreamer]

just out of curiosity , why do you type your posts that way ?

I've been asked this so many times...

I guess,
I'll address it,
finally:

OCD....
like really bad!
lol!

Also,
you quoted my post,
before I finished editing it!

Arrrggghhh!!!!

I'll try to get over it,
with some paper-bag deep breathing,
and forgive you...

:tongue:

[AbelD]

Yes! I would like to be married someday and also I would like to have a child