I feel like I want to break up with my boyfriend because he has asthma.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Truth: No matter who you are with, eventually old age and debility and disease will take place.

Worse, eventually you will have issues and problems and your BF/Husband whatever is going to have to live with that in you.

IF the only problem here is your lack of knowledge and understanding of asthma, then I strongly suggest you use your computer and start Googling the subject and educate yourself.

However, I suspect that you are using this as an excuse because you do not want to face the real reasons why you want to quit this relationship. That's ok, however that too will catch up with you sooner (than later) and be a huge problem in your life.

He's really wonderful guy and he's very important to me and perhaps this is why his asthma scares me so much, because he might die.....

That is a lame ass excuse. I know plenty of otherwise healthy people that died. Car accidents, falling off a ladder, being hit by a car, even a few who died from lead poisoning - lead as in the form of a bullet.

People die - all the time. There is no guarantee that anyone you are with will live to see old age.

Worse... There is no guarantee that you will live to see tomorrow. You could end up the victim of a gas line explosion at work, or being hit by a car crossing the street, or choke to death on dinner tonight.

People die everyday tens of thousands kick it each and everyday - many are accidental, some are from diseases and disorders, others are murdered - even in their sleep.

So death is a natural thing with life on earth - no man escapes alive.

[Woollyhats]

I have asthma actually, and it rarely bothers me. I travel with my inhalers (when I remember them, it's become less severe over the years), and I can easily ward off attacks with them. Shouldn't your boyfriend have a similar medicine?

I think the asthma thing is a weak excuse to "quit" somebody. Do you maybe have other reasons in addition to this that you're considering in wanting to break up? When we realize we aren't right for some people, it's not always nice or fair, but you should be honest with yourself. That means admit that you aren't strong enough for this, instead of blaming him.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he has some kind of inhaler, but sometimes he forgets it somewhere or he realizes it's empty or something and then we start to have real problems.

There are no other reasons for breaking up. It's just that I've never dealt with situations when somebody urgently needs help or something really bad may happen. If I had known he has problems this big in the beginning, probably I wouldn't have started to date him. I can learn how to help him and I can learn about asthma, but I think that in real situation I'll forget everything.

[Anonymous]

For goodness sake go and educate yourself and make an informed decision, you have a lot of growing up to do, one way or other it sounds like your gonna break his heart.
Sadly I think he's probably be better off with somebody who truly cares and loves him oh and respects him.

[megumidesu]

yes break up with him. but not because he has asthma , because he deserves to be treated better.

[matty7]

I have asthma too and don't think your evil,bad or immature - your simply scared of something you don't understand and have no control over. why not pop down to the doctors or nearest hospital and pick up one of the many leaflets on asthma advice, read up on the subject online and don't be ignorant - not to do that would be stupid and immature.At least once you have the facts and you still want to split up with him then tell him the truth of why

[Undreamt]

Is he taking anything for it? Athsma usually isn't a problem for adults if managed correctly.

[Anonymous]

Well, he only has this rescue inhaler or whatever it's called, as far as I know, he's not using anything else.

[matty7]

the 2 inhalers I have to use everyday are Symbicort and Ventolin.... there are many more too that will suit different people - if its so serious he needs a doctors check up on his lung capacity then prescribed the correct medicine or treatment - My doctor sends for me once per year for this check up and I went last week...he simple sound like he's not managing the condition, one of my medicines is a preventer and the other is a treatment for symptoms - he needs a combination like this - See, your learning things already !!! lets hope your reasons for dumping him change as you find out that it can be treated easily

[Unfulfilled1]

Dang. My boyfriend won't quit for health reasons, even when I felt excited the day he said he hadn't smoked in days. Cost was driving him to alternatives...

I have asthma due to allergies and have sacrificed easy breathing to be around dogs and other things.

You can be there for him - know how his body works. Know when you both need to leave an area, or when he needs to get the inhaler. Or when to call 911. Love is about sacrifices. I've made them, my boyfriend has made some, we'll both make more down the road if things continue to improve. Nobody is exempt from this.

And there is no "self" in a relationship because there is always the other person to consider. And, trust me, I have to remind myself of that often as well. Not because God gave me asthma. For over a decade I felt like the bad person being punished. But why should I suffer because others don't have a sense of empathy? My boyfriend has a sense of empathy. So do many people.

What happens if you developed an ailment and he decides to leave you? Will you like that?

Keep making the effort. If you're sincere, he will know it and appreciate and love you more.

All relationships are two-way streets. Otherwise they're not relationships but gratuitous F-buddies.