Be Happy being single, then you'll meet someone...

[Pix]

Then what is the difference between say a close friends and a lover (or at least dating which I presume means hopes to lead to that)? :confused:

[Pix]

telling people how they should think because it is what you think and anyone else that differs to you is wrong

Nope. Not my intent.

hence offered completely incorrect advice

Nope. Too many people have said they dropped or fled someone from being too desperate. Even if I'm wrong that's still the case and he'll end up chasing people off that he might otherwise be with unless he can develop other interests (and that can also make him more interesting to potential lovers).

or you are here purely to start and arguement and then blame everyone else for being abusing and negative because they don't agree with you)

That sounds like what you've done repeatedly. Not my intent here either.

[dfiant1]

step 1...take a dictionary

step 2...look up LOVE

step 3...look up SEX

step 4...learn to differentiate between the 2 and give the advice that the OP seeks.

[Pix]

step 1...take a dictionary

step 2...look up LOVE

step 3...look up SEX

step 4...learn to differentiate between the 2 and give the advice that the OP seeks.

I know the difference between love and sex. However, friends offer love. Family offers love. Dating, OTOH, is expected, or at least hoped, to lead to a sexual relationship in addition to love.

Ironically that's what I'm saying...he's still loved and wanted even if he's not dating (which generally expected to lead to marriage and sex). He shouldn't be thinking that just because he hasn't found the right person yet or clicked with someone to date that he's therefore unlovable or undesirable as a person.

[quasimodoalone]

The most common quote I keep hearing from my freinds & family at the moment is:

" You'll meet someone when your least expecting it"

What a load of s**t!!

Since 2012, I've given up caring, I've resigned from various gay groups (five in all), three cycling & two walking. I don't go out to socialize, & I don't make eye contact with anyone.

I know I'll be alone for the rest of my days, but hey, thats the price we pay for being GAY.

[dfiant1]

No, it's not the price you pay for being gay...there is obviously something else that is getting in the way of meeting people, and by the looks of it I would say it has a lot to do with self confidence and negativity.

there is also another saying 'You make your own luck'

I don't go out to socialize, & I don't make eye contact with anyone.

Then how are you ever going to see what you need to see or be the person that you are supposed to be?

[Joshular]

step 1...take a dictionary

step 2...look up LOVE

step 3...look up SEX

step 4...learn to differentiate between the 2 and give the advice that the OP seeks.

12 hail Marys to step 4

Anon I think you shouldn't stop looking. Just get out there be active in your own life. Get yourself to a happy place first and then start looking around

I know the difference between love and sex.

Nurr yooh dun

also anon don't listen to pix cos she dunno anything on this subject or what it is to be looking for love. She thinks it's just about sex which I think is a complete miss interpretation

[Joshular]

I don't go out to socialize, & I don't make eye contact with anyone.

This is teh problemo right here. I myself have resigned from a lot of groups but I make an effort to do things.

I know I'll be alone for the rest of my days, but hey, thats the price we pay for being GAY.

well if that's what you think will happen it might as well be. Quasi life is only what you make of it. Only we can deiced hey I'm going to try and enjoy this life. I'm going to play best with the hand that I've been dealt.

Well I guess all I can say is may the odds be ever in your favor!

[nfisher1226]

There's a huge difference between they way I love my family and friends and the way I love my boyfriend. And it's not just the sex issue. Romantic love is a different beast than platonic love. I don't get at all the same feelings from holding my daughter's hand as I do from holding my boyfriend's hand. I'd find it somewhat disturbing if I did.

However, It's true that platonic love can be a fulfilling thing and meet a lot of a person's needs. I think Pix has a point in that. I think it's a point that shouldn't be dismissed out of hand. Being around people and socializing is important whether you're in a relationship or not for that matter. And it's a great first step in breaking out of your shell so that someday you can have a meaningful one on one relationship with an appropriate person.

I also think there's a bit of "I don't like you so I'm going to dismiss your comments as BS" going on here. Grow the fuck up and respect other people's viewpoints. You can learn something from every person who has chimed in here if you keep a more open mind.

[dfiant1]

In the broader sense you would be correct, but in the nature of the question that the OP in this discussion has asked it is inappropriate to assume what he meant and give advice on an assumption when the advice he is seeking advice on 'platonic' relationships and to be held and loved for the person he is.