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[Hyde]

FJP, the two universities in our local area are Newcastle and Northumbria (You could perhaps travel to teeside or Sunderland uni also), sadly the groups there and in most universities in the UK are exclusive to students.

[Star Twister]

Aslong as what you tell them isn't a threaten to your/someone elses life or against the law, they have to keep it shush!

That's fair enough


*thumbs up*


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[joseph]

hello my disabiltys is just i was born with learning disabilitys. but i am not strong becase i never told anyone about i am gay. i have a socal worker who gets my services and its services like my support worker who visit me at home and my one at collage. i not go to therepy. i am trying to learn doing transport at collage like bus and metro on my own but it is relly hard:frown: i donot go to uni i go to collage. i dident now if they had them groups i hope so.
i wont a boyfriend because it would be very very nice to have a man who love me and i can do things. and when i get boyfrind everyone will relise i am propely grown up. i have some friends but if i have a boyfrind who will like the most becas them not always like me that much and it is lonley thank youmile:

[marshlander]

hello my disabiltys is just i was born with learning disabilitys. but i am not strong becase i never told anyone about i am gay. i have a socal worker who gets my services and its services like my support worker who visit me at home and my one at collage. i not go to therepy. i am trying to learn doing transport at collage like bus and metro on my own but it is relly hard:frown: i donot go to uni i go to collage. i dident now if they had them groups i hope so.
i wont a boyfriend because it would be very very nice to have a man who love me and i can do things. and when i get boyfrind everyone will relise i am propely grown up. i have some friends but if i have a boyfrind who will like the most becas them not always like me that much and it is lonley thank youmile:

Joseph, you sound like a lovely young man and I wish you the best in your search and in your journey towards enjoying what you want from being grown up.

I would agree with the others who say that your support worker should be on your side. Quite often I work with people who live with disabilities and their support workers as well. It's amazing how many support workers seem to be gay too I bet your s.w. will know a few ...

Having said that, may I offer a friendly word of warning. Your support worker will be there to do a job. He (I assume it will be a man?) will be able to be your advocate and even your friend (although I know this isn't always true). I imagine you have thought about trying keep the relationship "professional". When, in time, you find a boyfriend he may wish to take an active part in helping you as needed, but be careful you don't get hurt by falling for someone who can't (rather than won't) return your feelings.

Coming out can involve a lot of strange processes. When I came out my emotions developed a life of their own and I fell painfully hard for someone who couldn't return my affection. It was awful.

Now though, my life has turned out better than I ever dared hope. I hope you find the same.

I hope I haven't spoken out of turn. By all means tell me to mind my own business if I have strayed into an area for discussion that is too uncomfortable.

All the best

[fjp999]

but i am not strong becase i never told anyone about i am gay.:

I disagree with this. I believe that you are very strong. joseph, you must understand that even without any disabilities I didnt come out until around 21 years old. And then I only came out to a few close people. There are some people who NEVER come out of the closet and they dont have any disabilities.

i am trying to learn doing transport at collage like bus and metro on my own but it is relly hard:frown:

That must be really tough on you since it doesnt give you much independence. Keep trying and NEVER give up. Dont be shy to ask for help from others around you if you get lost or confused.

You are able to use a computer. Can you use & do you have a cell phone? Maybe there are other technologies out there that can help you to get your independence.

i wont a boyfriend because it would be very very nice to have a man who love me and i can do things. and when i get boyfrind everyone will relise i am propely grown up.

Obviously, I cant make any promises but by the way you sound you must be a wonderful human being. Any man who becomes close to you will be a very lucky guy. I am sure you are full of love and care.

I hope it is not too forward to ask but it sounds like many people dont treat you as a "proper grown up". That is another horrible social ill you will have to struggle with. I feel that things are getting better and better for people with disabilities so lets just hope that you will be accepted for who you are - a super human being.

It would be nice to hear some things you like about yourself so we can get to know you better.

hugs,
frank

[princealbertofb]

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It would be nice to hear some things you like about yourself so we can get to know you better.

hugs,
frank

If you've read his initial post, Frank, you'll know that Joseph enjoys dancing, and cooking and shopping, for starters. That's a great way to live, in my opinion... mile:

[joseph]

thank you very much eveyrone.
i think i try and tell my support worker becase he cant tell and he help memile: i wont tell my mum also and then she can now but it is very very scary!! i am good at computers and phones so i am quite good at cominicating. i donot use the metro by myself yet but one day when i can and i can go were i wonted.them sometimes think i am not grown up but i am 23. somethings about me is i really like internet!! and i am good at cooking.

[marshlander]

thank you very much eveyrone.
i think i try and tell my support worker becase he cant tell and he help memile: i wont tell my mum also and then she can now but it is very very scary!! i am good at computers and phones so i am quite good at cominicating. i donot use the metro by myself yet but one day when i can and i can go were i wonted.them sometimes think i am not grown up but i am 23. somethings about me is i really like internet!! and i am good at cooking.

Joseph, at 23 you are grown up You are allowed to have ideas of your own. All you need now is the confidence to believe it and for everyone else to accept it!

Of course the thought of coming out to your mum is very scary :eek: When you have done it, though, you will probably wonder why you were so nervous mile:

Try to remember that she might need some time to get used to the idea that you are gay. Be strong for yourself, but be kind for her.

If your support worker is any good he should be able to help you try out ways of saying the words.

Good luck.

[joseph]

thank you. my mum is very very nice so i not wont to make her upset. when i tell my support worker i can ask him how i say it that make her not sad. i miht do a letter maybe

[Star Twister]

thank you. my mum is very very nice so i not wont to make her upset. when i tell my support worker i can ask him how i say it that make her not sad. i miht do a letter maybe

Joseph,

You will be amazed at how many mums know before their son's tell them......


I'm sure you love your mum very much and visa versa

I wish you much love, sweet heart

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