What is wrong with me?

[ExpatBrit77]

If it makes you feel any better, I am in exactly the same position as you, only 15 yrs older. Those guys are superficial arseholes. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you - in fact if you lived in Europe I would have asked you out Well, and if you were 5 or 10 yrs older as well.
As you and others have said, unfortunately the gay community sends out message after message that slim is good, if you are not skinny you are crap. I say BULL-SHIT to that. I have lost count of the amount of guys who have told me TO MY FACE that I am "fat"/"ugly". And that's the stuff that they say to my face - God only knows what they say behind my back.

Just to put the weight thing into perspective: I started seeing a dietician in a bid to lose weight. According to the BMI scale I am 10 kg overweight, although by gay standards I am probably at least 20 kg overweight (LOL. joke. sort of). she said that BMI and other scales are really a ball-park, some people's bodies are just NOT MEANT TO BE LESS than a certain weight, and sometimes that weight is above what the BMI chart says.

Maybe someone should say that to the bitchy gay guys you and I have come across.

Many many hugs to you xxx