Depression

[Drkmcnamara]

I am not fat, dont say such horrible things about me. Hell you might as well tell me to abandon all hope while you are at it

[EvenOlderButWiser]

I think your response to BA's comments are indicative that you haven't or are not yet ready to admit to yourself that your not the Mr Perfect, which the gay scene seems so often to be hung up on.

There is no Mr Perfect, except in the eye of the beholder, and as BA has also tried to point out you need to go out and find that beholder. There are lots of sub cultures within the LBGT scene that you have probably not yet even started to explore. You are at the start of your LGBT journey. Either embrace it and accept it for what it has to offer, or don't. Its really your decision.

Whatever you decide, I fear that the top of your list must be to stop comparing yourself to some stereotypical twink that only exists in whatever porn movies you have been watching.

If you can't accept yourself, by being yourself, then your never going to be able to progress beyond this spiral of self loathing that you seem to be stuck in.

If the people you are meeting are not helping, then you need to find new people to be around.

Good Luck,
ObW
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[Rawr]

I think you need to think more positive. Easier said than done, but just find things which make you happy, give you hope etc... I often listen to up lifting songs when I'm feeling down and depressed.

I also think you need to sit back and reflect a little more on yourself. Who do you want to be? Do you really want to be that person, or do you just want to fit in? Find what makes you happy and pursue it.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

I am not fat, dont say such horrible things about me. Hell you might as well tell me to abandon all hope while you are at it

Wow I wrote several paragraphs of information and that is all you care to elaborate on.

Please stop, you are driving me to drink.

And I don't have the Annex close by to go to do the whole 'getting drunk again' thing all proper like, I'm having to drink in private and that's all sad and pathetic and a sure sign of alcoholism.... :biggrin:

[loserguy]

Before someone else takes you on it is important to like and respect yourself and other people.

It is far too easy to play the sympathy card because while others may express empathy for your situation, it does not really help you.

Only you can do that!

If you are lonely go out and meet people. Join some clubs or societies. Maybe do some charity work? It is a person's inner qualities that endear others to them.

You are far too negative right now and if you allow negativity into your heart it will make a home there. You need to be more positive. To do this, give to the world and the world will give back. Get out and about and stop sitting at home feeling sorry for yourself.

Remember everyone on here is trying to help. If people write something you do not like why not think about it and wonder why it was written? I can assure you that anyone who has taken the time to reply to your post bears you no malice whatsoever!