Are men only attracted to other men of similar body type?

[lester83ege]

I think when a man like a partners, he not like same body, if fat man then like light people and if light man then like fat people. Its my thinking.

[Jay]

I'm a health/fitness conscious man. I do admit that I am drawn to fit muscular guys as well.

But when it comes to reality, I do not have a preference as long as the person takes care of his health and well being. Oh yes, have a beautiful caring personality.

[LONDONER]

From my point of view, no. I am not attracted in the least by anyone of my own physical type. In my case it's opposites attract.

[ChadCoxRox]

Yes Lawd! It is terrible in the bible belt without doubt!

[Charon]

I am 6'6" tall and have been since I was 13, 57 years ago. Height is an issue with me if only because I grew tired of dancing cheek to sternum over the years. (their cheek, my sternum) Also, I was always the first person to notice a bald spot or who needed a root job. Somewhere in my late thirties I grew weary of people saying, "You sure are tall....". Appparently they felt I hadn't noticed it. I don't necessarily look for men my height but below six feet and you're running into problems when it comes to making out...(and, yes, at 70, I still make out.) and, beyond that, there are certain sexual positions that are difficult due to place ment of rods and holes. You'll have to trust me on that one. Do I look for someone my height, age weight, build, ethinicity, hairiness? No. It's nice if I run across some one who has most of those and, just incidentally, is gay but I look for a nice guy, a man who shares my interests, a man who has the same sense of humour which is often a sense of proportion, a man who isn't just "looking to be coupled" but who is just as happy with a bromance-with a few benefits-as he is with an out and out affair. To spend your life looking for your ideal is to miss most of the best. And, afterall, what if someone over looks you as you're not their ideal? It flies both ways.

(If you happen to know any man, 65 and up who's tall, likes tats, is well educated and is also looking, have him drop by here....)

[freelandia]

Is anyone out there in a relationship with someone who's physical stature is different than your own?

Is it possible for a tall slender guy like me to find my broader, thicker knight in shining armor? Or does body shape lock you in to dating only someone of similar build?

My husband is a stocky, not muscular, with a belly, blondish bear. He's not attracted to other bears. I'm fairly smooth, compared to my spouse, with a stocky built athletic body, not overly muscular. I'm more of a Rocker/hunk/model type. I was attracted to almost all types. At first he had a hard time accepting my face hair. He said he liked my old-school Burberry model look. I used to wear suits and Ferragamo leather shoes, the whole bit. I usually detest jeans on me unless the designer is Moschino. I only wear those when we go to a bear event.

Is it possible to find your broad band? It's how you work it. Do you feel confident, do you know your assets? Ask yourself. I was the hunter in the family, never the hunted, even though my husband is bigger and taller. We're all the same height in bed, give or take. I love my husband, not because he's a bear, but because he's a dear heart, who is completely in love with me. We've lived together for many years before we got married, and my sexual attraction for him hasn't died down.

[viktor77]

I tend to like men like myself, usually stockier. But I also like buff men, and men with facial hair (which does not describe my partner). My partner has an impossible-to-determine type, it's too varied to categorize. But in the end, he's stocky, I'm stocky, so we're in the similar camp. We get asked a lot if we're twins. It gets annoying. Anyone else get this? Or at least asked if you're brothers?

[Tulloni]

I don't understand why so many gays feel the need to go out with someone with a similar build - I am sorry but I am dumbfounded by it all. If you want to go out with yourself - why not clone yourself and date your clone? Or if you have a twin brother just go incestuous? sorry I know that's a harsh way of looking at it but really you don't want to go out with someone who looks like you - it wouldn't make you happy. I keep having no luck with guys and that's one of the reasons - I am probably just too skinny for even average build guys to take any notice.

Having said that the last guy I dated was a small Brazilian guy who physically looked very different to me - and before that I went out with a 6' 2'' tall Lithuanian guy with fairly broad shoulders so there is some diversity in these relationships I guess.

I wouldn't date anyone who has an excessive amount of muscle and/or fat but I find a bit of muscle - and yes sometimes a bit of fat - quite attractive. But I don't register on these guys radars - it is fucking annoying.

Besides which, I don't mean any offence here but muscle sure it looks great and helps with lifting heavy objects or doing manual work but it absolutely does not mean that you're better in bed just because you have more of it than someone else. I think there is a myth here which is why so many men are besottled with other, muscular guys. it looks nice on the eye - but it doesn't affect performance though I guess some people think it does.

[freelandia]

I am 6'6" tall and have been since I was 13, 57 years ago. Height is an issue with me if only because I grew tired of dancing cheek to sternum over the years. (their cheek, my sternum) Also, I was always the first person to notice a bald spot or who needed a root job. Somewhere in my late thirties I grew weary of people saying, "You sure are tall....".

We've heard that shorter guys, 5'4" and under, have the best luck in the gay world.

[Sylph]

[COLOR="blue"]Well I think (which is never good lol);

1)Gay Men dont like the Stigma of being the "Woman" in their relationship, so tend to go for like minded men, which inevitably leads them to looking and acting and dressing how they think a "man" should look or dress, which would often times produce couples of very Similar looks and mannerisms.

Unless they like or prefer a guy who is effeminate. The Grey Area is not very big in my opinion on this.

Like for instance here; You're either the "girl" or the Guy and tho we know better, its easier for our society to use these labels to identify, as we are an old school/traditional type of people.

I mean before I even joined this site, I thought all gays were White only, didnt know what a Twink/Bear/Top/Bottom/etc was, like I was severely uneducated about gays. And I was 18.

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2) Many guys are dont like the stereotyping and stuff, like who is the bottom or top, based on how they look alone. So if they look like they could both be Tops, alot of guys would go for that, just to avoid the stereotype.(Akin to #1)

For instance, a very good example;

[I was walking with a Male friend and two older ladies drove by us in their car and said to me as I was more in the road "Watch out Missy!" .

The same thing happened with a Female friend of mine, as we were walking to the store, a Man behind us said "Good afternoon ladies" and didnt correct himself when he saw me(which was probably out of embarrassment on his part) . ]

So I'm pretty sure that guys who are not comfortable with being openly gay or who are "masculine/straight acting" would either feel offended or insecure at being deemed a "woman" , as opposed to their equally Male partner.

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Granted, this is not every gay guy or relationship, but its what I notice when I analyze how they look, dress, groom and carry themselves, wether alone or together, even in a picture.

Altho guys tend to like guys who look like guys for that reason, a lot of them force it more for the sake of other reasons. Typically Fear.