Is my bf really gay?

[dowhatchuwant10]

Wow, I think you're missing the point here. When I say "be a freak" for your man, I'm not talking about scat, or any other specific fetish. I'm saying, as long as what your boyfriend wants in bed is safe, you should be willing, even eager to accommodate and please him. Wouldn't you want the same from him? You're in an intimate, adult relationship, so act like it. One important part of such a relationship is fulfilling each other's sexual needs. If you're not willing to do that, your relationship is doomed, and dysfunctional from the start.

Like I said in my first post, idm doing what he wants me to do. What i wanted to find out is why if he is attracted to femininity, why is he not attracted to women. Does him being attracted to femininity make him less gay? im jw.

[dowhatchuwant10]

Why does a moderator need to see my posts before i can post something?

[dowhatchuwant10]

@Hank

By what you guys are saying, it dispels the idea that a "straight guy" who is attracted to feminine men or cross dressers is still straight. My bf has tried sex with women but he couldn't maintain an erection and it didn't feel right to him. He also has 5 older brothers so the chances of him being gay were pretty high according to some research. And he does say all the time that he loves me for me and he doesnt want me to change.

[hank]

Like I said in my first post, idm doing what he wants me to do. What i wanted to find out is why if he is attracted to femininity, why is he not attracted to women. Does him being attracted to femininity make him less gay? im jw.

I don't thinkhe is attracted to femininity, he is with you, and you aren't feminine because you are male. You may challenge the boundaries of what a man is. Blur the lines, that is daring and uncompromising. You aren't interested in fitting in with men as a peer in regards of behavior, modes of dress, hair style so forth. That boldnessthat blurring of the lines, might attract him.

Maybe it's the fact that you blurthe lines, that can be sexy if you ask me.

There may be a lot of things at play, but if he was attracted to women hewould be with a woman. You know him better than I do, I am just guessing. Only thing I could advise art this point is talk to him. Find out why he is attracted to an un stereotypical guy like yourself.

[dowhatchuwant10]

I think ur right because he says he loves me for me and how im not afraid to be me.

[dowhatchuwant10]

He doesnt like women because he tried to have sex with one and he couldnt maintain an erection.

[dowhatchuwant10]

Im just a bit paranoid haha, a part of me still thinks he's a closeted straight guy XD

[swalter]

Like I said in my first post, idm doing what he wants me to do. What i wanted to find out is why if he is attracted to femininity, why is he not attracted to women. Does him being attracted to femininity make him less gay? im jw.

That's like asking why he likes chocolate ice cream, and not vanilla. If you want to know why he's turned on by something, you're being unreasonable, because it's insane to expect someone to quantify their physiology. There is no why.

[hank]

I think ur right because he says he loves me for me and how im not afraid to be me.

That is an awesome quality in a person. I would love that in a boyfriend myself. Confidence is the most attractive aspect I have ever seen.

He doesnt like women because he tried to have sex with one and he couldnt maintain an erection.

Proof positive he isn't straight, or even bisexual. Does he maintain itwith you?

Im just a bit paranoid haha, a part of me still thinks he's a closeted straight guy XD

Well we all have our own little insecurities, even the midst confident among us. That isn't a problem. When you are ready tell him about it.

[dowhatchuwant10]

Yes he does maintain it with me and I dont think im being unreasonable because if i asked you why you like men you would say that you prefer masculine qualities etc. By that logic, nobody would try to find out what makes people gay... there would be no research etc.