Colleague has a problem with my being gay
04-20-2014, 10:24 PM
So there's this one man that I've to work together, we're colleagues. We're working together for about 3 years. I'm only out to my family, but it happened that he found out I'm gay. We had just signed a contract and he appeared to be so unsatisfied with my orientation, that I even offered him to break the contract so he wouldn't have to endure the torture of working together with a gay person. He didn't want it and seemed to calm down.
Later that day he approached me and started to make various statements and questions like "but you don't look like a queer", "how can you want man instead of women", "you are definitely mistaking about being gay, you just need to meet a good woman" and so on. I didn't really want to prove him anything, as I can't stand it when some hetero who thinks he's smarter than anyone, starts teaching me. Our relationships has became quite cold since that day, although we were friends before.
Few weeks ago I was sitting in the cafe and he came up to me and asked if he could join me in coffee drinking. I agreed, we started to talk about job stuff and suddenly out of nowhere he brought gay theme into our conversation. He asked if I have cut it with the gay stuff and that being with woman would be a lot better. He commented how cute the waitresse's butt looked like and that man must be crazy to not like tits. He waslike "how can you be gay with all these sexy women around?"
He brings up gay theme every day and tries to convince me to date woman. He says he dislikes gay men, but why is he talking about it then? Now when I'm out to him, I'm.also out to everyone in my job and he was like "aren't you ashamed to tell people you're gay?" For me it's impossible to have a normal conversation with him, he always says something abou being gay, about anal sex, how gross it is to stuck your penis in other man's butt, and so on.
What is wrong with him? If you dislike something, why so much attention to it then? Also, our boss wants us both to go on a job trip together. I won't stand it with him
Later that day he approached me and started to make various statements and questions like "but you don't look like a queer", "how can you want man instead of women", "you are definitely mistaking about being gay, you just need to meet a good woman" and so on. I didn't really want to prove him anything, as I can't stand it when some hetero who thinks he's smarter than anyone, starts teaching me. Our relationships has became quite cold since that day, although we were friends before.
Few weeks ago I was sitting in the cafe and he came up to me and asked if he could join me in coffee drinking. I agreed, we started to talk about job stuff and suddenly out of nowhere he brought gay theme into our conversation. He asked if I have cut it with the gay stuff and that being with woman would be a lot better. He commented how cute the waitresse's butt looked like and that man must be crazy to not like tits. He waslike "how can you be gay with all these sexy women around?"
He brings up gay theme every day and tries to convince me to date woman. He says he dislikes gay men, but why is he talking about it then? Now when I'm out to him, I'm.also out to everyone in my job and he was like "aren't you ashamed to tell people you're gay?" For me it's impossible to have a normal conversation with him, he always says something abou being gay, about anal sex, how gross it is to stuck your penis in other man's butt, and so on.
What is wrong with him? If you dislike something, why so much attention to it then? Also, our boss wants us both to go on a job trip together. I won't stand it with him
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