04-24-2014, 06:35 AM
Hey guys, just joined this site in the hope of gaining some perspective from other gay guys on the subject of Friends with Benefits. Any and all responses are greatly appreciated! I know this is a long post but I'm desperate for advice and would GREATLY APPRECIATE any response.
Here it goes. I've been seeing this guy for about a year and a half now and to be honest, our "relationship" has been confusing me recently. We met on ****** after he got out of a long term relationship, so I understood that his romantic life just went through the ringer and at the time he wasn't looking for a relationship. That was fine with me because I wasn't looking for a relationship at that time either. I'd go over to his house, hang out and watch something on Netflix, and we'd make out and get into some oral but it always stopped at oral for some reason. It wasn't until a few months ago that we started going all the way.
In October of 2013 we went out in public for the first time and saw a show together. It was great, I had fun and I'm pretty sure he did too, as we've done it numerous times since. I bought him dinner before one of the shows, which to me (in my infinite naivety) sounds like a date. He's said that he would go to dinner and a movie with me which, again, sounds like a date.
We meet up at least once a week, sometimes twice a week. I spend the night at his house after we have sex and we cuddle and he'll grab my hand and hold it for a while. Also, we don't fool around every time we hang out. Sometimes we just talk, watch what he called "our shows," cuddle, hold hands, and fall asleep. Sometimes, because of my work schedule, I can't spend the night. Before leaving one time after we had sex he said, "I guess you got all you wanted." I responded by saying, "If all I wanted was the sex, I wouldn't go to shows with you and I sure as hell wouldn't have bought you dinner," to which he responded with a simple, "Good." He's called me "hun" before and I thought pet names or whatever were a big no-no in the world of FWB but I could be wrong.
He talks to me about other guys he's hooked up with which bothers me to no end, and in the past has even talked to other guys while I'm with him, which is extremely off-putting and rude in my opinion. It's sh*t like that that makes me question everything.
It's really hard for me to think about him being with other guys, because secretly I want him to only want to be with me. I think about him every single f*cking day but I don't know whether or not he does the same. I'm at a crossroads in that I want to speak up and say something to him about this but at the same time, I'd rather not screw it all up and not have him at all.
Anyone have any thoughts on what our "relationship" may or may not be or any advice on what I should do?
Here it goes. I've been seeing this guy for about a year and a half now and to be honest, our "relationship" has been confusing me recently. We met on ****** after he got out of a long term relationship, so I understood that his romantic life just went through the ringer and at the time he wasn't looking for a relationship. That was fine with me because I wasn't looking for a relationship at that time either. I'd go over to his house, hang out and watch something on Netflix, and we'd make out and get into some oral but it always stopped at oral for some reason. It wasn't until a few months ago that we started going all the way.
In October of 2013 we went out in public for the first time and saw a show together. It was great, I had fun and I'm pretty sure he did too, as we've done it numerous times since. I bought him dinner before one of the shows, which to me (in my infinite naivety) sounds like a date. He's said that he would go to dinner and a movie with me which, again, sounds like a date.
We meet up at least once a week, sometimes twice a week. I spend the night at his house after we have sex and we cuddle and he'll grab my hand and hold it for a while. Also, we don't fool around every time we hang out. Sometimes we just talk, watch what he called "our shows," cuddle, hold hands, and fall asleep. Sometimes, because of my work schedule, I can't spend the night. Before leaving one time after we had sex he said, "I guess you got all you wanted." I responded by saying, "If all I wanted was the sex, I wouldn't go to shows with you and I sure as hell wouldn't have bought you dinner," to which he responded with a simple, "Good." He's called me "hun" before and I thought pet names or whatever were a big no-no in the world of FWB but I could be wrong.
He talks to me about other guys he's hooked up with which bothers me to no end, and in the past has even talked to other guys while I'm with him, which is extremely off-putting and rude in my opinion. It's sh*t like that that makes me question everything.
It's really hard for me to think about him being with other guys, because secretly I want him to only want to be with me. I think about him every single f*cking day but I don't know whether or not he does the same. I'm at a crossroads in that I want to speak up and say something to him about this but at the same time, I'd rather not screw it all up and not have him at all.
Anyone have any thoughts on what our "relationship" may or may not be or any advice on what I should do?