Do I say my mind?

[SHOman93]

Hey guys, I'm brand new to this forum so no, you are not loosing your mind mind if you don't recognize my screen name. Some backround information, I am an 18 year old single gay (and proud) guy. As for my post, I hope you have your reading glasses on because this might be a little long winded. So, where do I begin....well, it all started about a month ago. I work as a lifeguard and one day we got a new guard. At first I didn't even notice him, I did say Hi and made some small talk with him. Then fast forward to about a half of week ago. The still new guard and I were scheduled to work a bunch of shifts together and I was kind of excited. I do love meeting new people and getting to know them. We connected instantly. He was so cute and could make me laugh like only a good friend could. I can count 4 times where my supervisor has had to come out to tell us to stop talking to each other while out on deck (and yes, we both had our eyes on the people and there was usually less than 6 people in the pool.) I would bring in a Psychology Today magazine and he would read it, draw a funny picture on it, and then say "I left you a present in the guard room and vice versa. Now, this guy, Josh, is obviously gay ( and my gay-dar is usually inaccurate but not this time, everyone of the other guards says he is gay.) So, with said I figured I had a chance with him. But, here's my dilemma though. I've had A LOT of people that I have told that I'm gay be in total shock. My BEST FRIEND that I have known for almost 8 years, and tell everything to, had no idea that I was gay when I told her. I just don't act overly "fabulous" and that stuff. So, I don't even know if Josh knows that I have a HUGE CRUSH on him or that I am gay for that matter. My question to you guys is, Do I tell him? Do I tell him that I am Gay and am attracted toward him? Let me provide some points that I say he likes me back and some that have me still wondering.
Yes (he likes me back)
-Invited me to go to a bakery with him after work one day. (But got cancelled due to the place being closed early that day)
-Asked me to go to a Thai Food restaurant after I told him that I love Thai food and haven't had it in forever.
-We could talk forever at work.
-When he is in one lifeguard stand and I am in the other always look over and he is looking right back at me.
-Bought me a bottle of Orangina after I said that I have never tried it.
-Bought me coffee after I bought him one.
-Took me for a ride in his car because I told him that I really loved his Bronco and because he wanted to show me a song he always talks about.
No (he doesn't like me back)
-Canceled the Thai Food plans because he was having his Wisdom teeth removed in 3 days.
-Our text conversations always end with a text from me and never last longer than a couple of texts.
-He is nice to all the other guards not just me, especially the women (but in a friend way). But the things I list above he asked me and maybe one other person. But I was always the only one that would go.
-I can't really think of anymore. I just have a feeling that he doesn't like me the way I like him.

I just really don't know what to do. I already had this talk with my best friend. She said "let me get somebody with more experience." So we went over to her mom's house. Not only was her mom the coolest person about my situation but she treated me as her own son. She told me to come out and say it to Josh and quit wondering what he knows about me or how he feels back. And yes, if you're wondering, I haven't told my mom I'm gay(I'll get around to it one of these days.) I really do appreciate your guy's responses. I do realize it's hard to be understand and kind to a new person, especially one who gave you guys this long-ass article to read. THANKS AGAIN!!!

P.S, i can't wait to meet you guys!

[SHOman93]

And yes, I really should have proofread but, YOLO.

[Virge]

oooooooo boy. okay. From personal experience........

There's no such thing as a gay guy who drives a Bronco except in North Dakota, South Dakota, Nebraska, Iowa, Wyoming, Montana, Idawhore, Eastern Washington state, Nevada, New Mexico, Arizona, Alabama, Missiissippi, Tennessee, Kentucky, West Virginia, Maine, and the northern parts of Michigan, Wisconsin, Minnesota. and the civilized areas of Alaska. If it's a jacked up Bronco the list gets much shorter and generally speaking so does his penis.

Run to the book store and buy an illustrated book on the Art of Erotic Massage and take it to work to read. Leave it for him to find and take from you. Ask for it back and tell him you need it so you can read up on it so you can get ready for some great sex. Then some time later, mumble that you wish you had someone to practice on before you have to show off what you've learned. Either he will volunteer to be your lab rat or or he won't.

If that doesn't work wait a few days and tell him you found out how to have five orgasms in less than eight minutes without jacking off and see how he responds. Start reading here.

If that doesn't work offer him a starring role in your home porn tapes.

[Keith]

My immature opinion: stare him more often with gentle sweet eye sights. See how it works If you are afraid that maybe he will freak out when u tell him u r gay.

[SHOman93]

Thanks guys. I am still convinced that he is Gay. Either he just hides it at work since he still is relatively new or he hasn't come out at all. And IDK making up my mind to say something is so hard. It might be because I genuinely laughed around him and don't really want to ruin the friendship by taking it out of the friend zone.

[Bluelight]

Come out to him. See where it goes from there.

[EvenOlderButWiser]

This whole post brought a smile to my face

Oh to be young and in love (again!) Its just such a gushing no holds barred post. to the Forum Sho, I can feel the love from here!

-Bought me a bottle of Orangina after I said that I have never tried it.

If he's buying you Orangina, then your already halfway there.......

Just drop your sexuality into the conversation if you feel ok doing that, or mention something in the news (gay marriage is usually a good one) and see what his reaction is...

Keep us posted, I so want to read the next instalment :dance3:

[Buzzer]

YOLO.

Do you realize the irony of making this reference when you're doing a big beat around the bush dance in your OP?

[Camfer]

[Had to make sure Meme mentioned New Mexico when writing about Broncos, because I had one. That truck got me out of some very scary arroyos!]

Maybe a two-step process. Step 1 tell him you like guys. See how he reacts. If he says he's straight then stop you're done. That doesn't necessarily mean he's straight, but it mean's you're not getting anywhere with him anytime soon.

Step 2 Invite him out for Thai food, a walk in the park at night, whatever. Bring your best, most charming aspects of self out for him to see. Be flirty and casually touch him briefly and see how he responds. You can let him know you like him without having to say, "I've got a crush on you."

Now for the unsolicited advice. When your world is bigger and you are meeting guys in your daily life outside of work, try to avoid dating people from work. If your connection with a BF goes sour and you guys still have to work together, it can get really awkward.

[Borg69]

You're both life guards. Tell him you want to show him a new technique. Give him mouth to mouth, and see if he kisses you back.