05-03-2014, 02:55 AM
To clarify what I said earlier, those who make a BIG DEAL about how important monogamy is to them are those I've learned not to trust. Those who claim to be monogamous but don't make a big deal about it aren't those I worry about.
It's possible that a few people run across it and are shocked at such an alternative, so speak out in amazement. It's also possible that the guy who started this thread doesn't like to hear how "it's all about sex" among gays (and people acting as if horny gay men are somehow acting different from horny straight men, or that Mardi Gras, Spring Break, and Girls Gone Wild is somehow not deserving of comment but those who go to the extreme at a pay pride parade are somehow sick, when the only real difference is the orientation, not the behavior), and therefore is looking for some proof to say "see, gay men aren't just about sex without consequences."
But most, in my experience, who made a big deal about it were and are cheaters. They don't want others to think they cheat so they put on a dog and pony show about how important it is to them by bringing it up in the first place and saying it loudly in the hopes that it tricks others into not suspecting their affairs. And yes, that IS planned. And knowing how faithless they are they suspect their own partners of being just as disloyal and therefore make a big deal about it hoping to keep them in line.
I've been in multiple monogamous affairs, yet all but one never made a big deal about it. If asked, they'd say they prefer monogamy and pretty much drop it, and wouldn't bring it up themselves without a good reason. The only one who did was a huge cheater who had been cheating on me for years (and also refused the offer of having a more open relationship after I busted her the first time and she swore it would never happen again, the monogamy-supporting lying cheater). And I've seen that among others (mostly heterosexual couples and can be male or female) so that I automatically distrust the loyalty of the person who makes a big deal about it for no reason. As the saying goes, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."
It's possible that a few people run across it and are shocked at such an alternative, so speak out in amazement. It's also possible that the guy who started this thread doesn't like to hear how "it's all about sex" among gays (and people acting as if horny gay men are somehow acting different from horny straight men, or that Mardi Gras, Spring Break, and Girls Gone Wild is somehow not deserving of comment but those who go to the extreme at a pay pride parade are somehow sick, when the only real difference is the orientation, not the behavior), and therefore is looking for some proof to say "see, gay men aren't just about sex without consequences."
But most, in my experience, who made a big deal about it were and are cheaters. They don't want others to think they cheat so they put on a dog and pony show about how important it is to them by bringing it up in the first place and saying it loudly in the hopes that it tricks others into not suspecting their affairs. And yes, that IS planned. And knowing how faithless they are they suspect their own partners of being just as disloyal and therefore make a big deal about it hoping to keep them in line.
I've been in multiple monogamous affairs, yet all but one never made a big deal about it. If asked, they'd say they prefer monogamy and pretty much drop it, and wouldn't bring it up themselves without a good reason. The only one who did was a huge cheater who had been cheating on me for years (and also refused the offer of having a more open relationship after I busted her the first time and she swore it would never happen again, the monogamy-supporting lying cheater). And I've seen that among others (mostly heterosexual couples and can be male or female) so that I automatically distrust the loyalty of the person who makes a big deal about it for no reason. As the saying goes, "The lady doth protest too much, methinks."
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