Is Cybersex Cheating?

[Brett240]

I have this friend that I've cybered with in the past and he recently wanted to start it up again. But he's now in a supposedly monogamous relationship. He says that cybersex doesn't count, it's just a fantasy game. But IDK, I feel like it's some kind of betrayal of his partner. So I'm not going to do it with him, but I'm just curious what people think. Is cybersex cheating?

[CellarDweller]

I think it's cheating. He's getting some need filled by you instead of his partner.

[ChadCoxRox]

I think it's cheating and worse because he knows you irl. Sounds like a horny creep.

[swalter]

If it's interactive, it's cheating.

[Anonymous]

It isn't if the partner is both aware and okay with it.

[AlfredM]

It's cheating to me,but some people define cheating differently,so it's up to his partner to consider cybersex as cheating or not. If you consider it cheating,don't do it.

[ddd]

To me it's cheating. I'll give you an advice to ask your friend if his partner knows about his cybersex desire. In case his partner is OK with it, then it's up to you to decide what to do. Just consider it carefully and make the right decision for yourself, so you wouldn't regret it later. Personally I don't understand cybersex, but people have diverse interests.

[Mark]

To me I'd say it isn't? I'd wonder why he would need to engage in cybersex, as it would make me think that in his current relationship there isn't much action BUT I wouldn't count cyber sex as cheating HOWEVER I'd maybe class it as cheating if it was constantly with the same guy on a frequent basis - like a few times a week as that would say to me that there is some deep rooted emotional feelings somewhere :/

[jogu656]

Personally I do not, to me its like interactive porn as long as you don't connect emotionally or make plans to meet, but agree that if the boyfriend thinks its cheating then you have to respect him by not doing it. I normally never get to involve in their private life, if they have a bf that's their problem haha not mine, but if im in a relationship I rarely feel the need to do it, I like to respect my other half when I have one, I guess it must be true if they seek cybersex something is not right in that relationship, so you shouldn't feel any remorse you're not the one cheating he is, I guess unlike you cybersex never makes me feel anything but pleasure for a few minutes I never over think or analyze it since its a fantasy, I wouldn't feel like a home wrecker since the one wrecking his home is that other guy.

[shane82]

For me, it's cheating of course.