Is Cybersex Cheating?

[Undreamt]

i don't think it matters if its interactive or not.

If he is doining it behind the back of his partner its cheating

[Wolfpack]

Yep it is still cheating, and grossly unfair to a partner.

[HumbleTangerine]

It's definitely cheating.

[Jaxx37]

I'd say it's definitely cheating, especially if the partner is blissfully unaware of their other half's activities.

[JWS]

Yes it is! Think how u would feel if your partner was sending pictures of himself to some other guy. It's actually skanky. If your going todo things like that be honest with your partner that is what u are doing because if they find out they will be hurt by it.

[Mark]

Even reading all this I still don't think it is. I've always seen cheating as more of a physical and emotional connection rather than just an interaction. I think someone I was in a relationship having sex with another guy would hurt, but it would hurt less than if he decided he was in love with another guy. Anyway I'm going off point. Maybe I just don't count telling someone the things you'd do to them as anything major - I guess I'm in the minority!

*Cheap, sleazy gay guy* :p

[Ekwarph]

I would mostly agree with Marky.
However, there is not only one way to define the term of a relationship. For some, it can be.

If he says he isn't cheating, it's certainly none of your business or your fault if he actually is.

[happyschizoid]

If he doesn't think it's cheating ask him if you can speak to his partner to alleviate your guilt.

I would be shocked if he said ok because he knows most people consider it cheating.

[TimeSage]

Depends on what you mean by cyber-sex.

Do you mean written text RP based around sex?
Then the answer is a flat out no. That's not sex. That's interactive fan-fiction written by two parties.

I'll be blunt. I use Second Life for this kind of thing a lot. It's not the same thing. Good E-RP isn't about the sex itself. It's about telling a sexy story.

Within one of my stories, I'm a child of a succubus and werewolf according to my back story. I'm married to a Humanoid dragon and a Vampire/Incubus hybrid (Both played by the same man). None of that stuff is really me though. I'm writing a sexy story about my character with an online friend, not about Me.


If you mean something like "Video chat and watching each other do stuff. Then yeah, that's probably cheating.

If he doesn't think it's cheating ask him if you can speak to his partner to alleviate your guilt.

I would be shocked if he said ok because he knows most people consider it cheating.

You should vist SL some time. You'd change your tune real fast about the "Most people" part.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Here we are in the 21st century and we have all new problems which society as a whole have not actually gotten around to finding solutions.

Back in my day cheating was simply defined as having sex with another person without your partner's consent/knowledge. Well at least in America in the old timey days.

Today we have an abundance of porn, sexting, video chat.. etc.

The definition of 'cheating' appears to vary in the details depending on who you talk to. Which also means that the definition of monogamy has also changed.

Humans evolved in a world of face to face communication. The whole communicating over long distances with a device between them is a new thing and makes communicating less personal for many folk via a device.

Without the physical contact or face to face time 'cheating' can be defined readily as a physical activity done face to face without a device and sexting/video chat and all of that VR crap can be considered 'unreal' or 'not really' cheating.