Well...
Lets look at a bit of reality and some research:
http://psychcentral.com/lib/higher-risk-...ls/0006527
That link will tell you what gays are prone to, and that gays are more prone for insanities - which we are not allowed to call them 'crazy' so we just have to say 'mental/emotional health issues'.
That article, should you choose to read it, tells you WHY gays are nucking futs - all of that discrimination leaves an impact.
Not enough information? Then try this one as well:
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2072932/
In case you just flat refuse to click links and read, I will try to summarize:
Many, if not most, gay males have suffered persecution, which is a form of torture, that leads to behavioral changes and mental health issues which means that you are most likely NOT going to find a gay man without some sort of personality issue, or what I like to call 'defects of character'.
So the choice here is not finding Mr. Almost Perfect, the choice is to decide which disorders/personality issues/defects of character that you can live with.
Awesome personable people do not exist. No seriously, that is a mask people wear in public. At home, with their spouse or SO once they become comfortable with that person they take off the mask and the real human being comes out and plays.
People are mean, tired, grumpy, assholes, dicks, nose pickers and a whole lot of other things in the comfort of their own home. So don't expect to find a person who is able to play the Awesome Personable Character 24/7/365.
Paxil People do exist, they are all smiles and creepy shit like that... But its the paxil not them....