Can Hookups Turn Into Relationships?

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Foreplay? *Right*
I woke up in a daze to take a leak, tripped over a dog and landed in the floor on a tool box... maybe 3 ribs. Room mate is a EMT and freaked when he saw me without a shirt this afternoon and played doctor like there something that can be done about them. All day I went around thinking I'd just slept wrong last night. I've been in a foul mood all day and never associated the fall last night with the pain this morning. Yes I am that stupid. If I get some decent sleep tonight I'll be fine in the morning.

Um no. Go to the ER room, get an X-ray. While there isn't much they can do for simple cracks, if its not a simple crack they could prevent the broken rib from puncturing some internal organ. Or do you want holey organs?

X-rays, and binding, and nifty pain killers that you can't get over the counter.

I have had ribs cracked, broken, bruised - on more than one occasion. It is always best to get to the ER and get it checked out ASAP.

[Virge]

Memechose
I'm with Twisttheleaf on this and say Borg and East both were on target and speak with authority since they're both old old old men.... (LOL)....
You were in the military? Ha, I'm still probably more Rock solid than you. (I'm talking about my body)

hahahahahaha! You know what? I bet you are too! LOL. I've lost almost all my upper body definition since May when I injured a hand and had to stop going to the gym but will be starting back soon. By nature I'm a tall ectomorph except for wide shoulders and it takes me two or three times as much work to build muscle than other guys --- and I lose it so fast it's sad. But I haven't lost the tight abs down to my nuts and can most likely outrun you LOL. I do two miles twice a day five days a week usually, when weather permits and the dogs are in the mood.
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Bowyn --- there's no sense in me doing ER drama cuz my dad's an MD and will set me up with whatever I need when I see him tomorrow. He'd blow a fuse if I went to the ER.

If you don't mind I'm going to pick my nose for awhile longer. LOL.
Massage my brain.

[Ryocchi]

I guess I made a mistake.
I read the OP's question "Can Hookups Turn Into Relationships?" and made this silly assumption he was capable of composing questions to obtain the information he asked for instead of what others interpret him to be asking for.

I also gave him credit for having enough sense to take the answers he received and processing them to ask questions and go into deeper issues all own his own.

Dear darling, I didn't specially address you, I don't even believe I read your post (sorry), I was referring to the opinion encouraging the op, to go for hook ups, when it isn't his thing, if you really read your post and my post, you will notice they don't contradict each other.

Better luck next time dear.

[MikeW]

I guess I made a mistake.
I read the OP's question "Can Hookups Turn Into Relationships?" and made this silly assumption he was capable of composing questions to obtain the information he asked for instead of what others interpret him to be asking for.

I also gave him credit for having enough sense to take the answers he received and processing them to ask questions and go into deeper issues all own his own.

Dear darling, I didn't specially address you, I don't even believe I read your post (sorry), I was referring to the opinion encouraging the op, to go for hook ups, when it isn't his thing, if you really read your post and my post, you will notice they don't contradict each other.

Better luck next time dear.

Why the passive aggressive attitude? I don't see any such "encouragement", not as you stated it in your first post in this thread:

...it moved naturally, not forced, to tell a guy, who really wants a relationship to throw himself into the hook up world seems recklessly to me….

So you chimed in castigating previous posters for "telling" the OP to "throw himself into the hook up world." But no one had done that.

Let's look at the previous posts (I've tried to pick out the salient point in each):

Absolutely...they can....and they sometimes do. … I prefer to take my chances with the hookups….

I would advise you to keep following your gut….

It's absolutely possible-....

Of course a hookup can lead to something more, but it's not for everyone. ...

...Some guys look so hard for a dream relationship they forget the guys applying. Some are so into the next hookup they throw away a lot of good guys. ...

^^ I couldn't have said it any better than Borg.

I'm with Twisttheleaf on this and say Borg and East both were on target… If it hadn't been for me taking a guy up on a hookup 5 years ago I'd most likely still be...

So, as you see, no one was "encouraging" the OP to "throw himself into the hookup world". THAT was your interpretation, suggesting to me that you didn't *really* read the previous posts (any more than you read memechose's) but rather *assumed* you knew what they were saying and decided to take the high-handed position of criticizing them for doing something no one was doing. What they were doing is answering the question honestly--just as you did-- that "yes sometimes they lead to relationships". One was pointing out, as well, that it is possible to have standards set so high that it virtually guarantees that no relationship is possible. In any case, everyone was sharing their own opinion and experience… NOT telling the OP what he "should" do.

Your passive aggressive "Better luck next time dear" (as if memechose was attacking you and failed) suggests you need to take a time out. In sum: 1) no one was encouraging the OP to "throw himself" anywhere. 2) memechose underscored this point; the OP asked a question, people are replying with their opinions and POVs, *just as you did.*

[Virge]

I have gone back through all the replies to SilentFilm's question looking for anything that would give me a position in the middle in this issue... just to keep from this from becoming more of an argument. I just don't see where the comments of anyone here really go off from being pretty centered middle of the road good advice. No one was suggested to SilentFilm the way to find a relationship was to start hooking up with one or more man per night. No one tried to tell him to lock his stuff up in a chastity belt and preserve it for Prince Charming.

Reading my posts after I took offense to Ryocchi said really puts things in a different light. In fact reading most of my posts from yesterday I'm wondering why no one shot me. The pain from my accident really had me screwed up and off my game. Ryocchi wasn't the only person whose words made me snap back... in fact I even cussed at my dogs yesterday, snapped at a nurse, a guy at the gas station, my room mate, and went about four hours without returning a call from my Mom.

I was not me yesterday and I apologize for it.

[NayNay]

I m currently in an exclusive relationship type status but we don't call each other boyfriends? Initially when we met he thought I just wanted hook up, but in reality I just wanted to be friends... we didn't actually hook up because the first night he told me he can't hook up with someone he likes....

Now he's moved to toronto temporarily to look for work, but we still talk everyday. We like each other, but no pressure about the future. You could say we are in a relationship, although he knows im not ready to commit to a relationship. My point being, sometimes hookups turn out to be something more, because you find out that your actually compatible. I just think we both needed each other at the time... but i m happy about all of it

[MrMom]

Unless you can go into a hookup and genuinely regard it as just that - a hookup - don't do it. Going in with a "Well, maybe..." attitude will only being you a lot of frustration and pain.
Sure, it can happen. When I was 19 I was brainless and over-sexed (my husband would say that nothing has changed, but that's another story) and I hooked up with this completely hot older guy and we somehow we kept on hooking up - lots of drama and other guys and insanity -and after a few months he making jealous noises about other guys and then he started making nesting noises - so yeah, we're married, have 2 kids, and damn but I still love hooking up with him. But that isn't the norm. This may not make sense, but I think it only happens when you have absolutely no thought of it happening, because then you're relaxed and don't screw it up.

[Virge]

Unless you can go into a hookup and genuinely regard it as just that - a hookup - don't do it. Going in with a "Well, maybe..." attitude will only being you a lot of frustration and pain.
Sure, it can happen. When I was 19 I was brainless and over-sexed (my husband would say that nothing has changed, but that's another story) and I hooked up with this completely hot older guy and we somehow we kept on hooking up - lots of drama and other guys and insanity -and after a few months he making jealous noises about other guys and then he started making nesting noises - so yeah, we're married, have 2 kids, and damn but I still love hooking up with him. But that isn't the norm. This may not make sense, but I think it only happens when you have absolutely no thought of it happening, because then you're relaxed and don't screw it up.

Except for the ages and kids you just described me and Jay... the jealous stuff was hilarious. he's encourage me to date others, then freak out when I did then tell me i deserved better than whoever I chose to date then begging me to come him see him for a hook up... all about once in every 24 hours.

[sdguy]

I've been searching for this answer too. I've been seeing a guy that started out as friends with benefits and I want something more. Hang in there, you'll find someone.

[SilentFilm1988]

I want to thank everyone for there replies. I read each reply and was surprised by what it turned into of one poster accusing others of "Encouraging" me to go out and hookup. Let me say that every reply to my post is EXACTLY what I wanted. I wanted to hear opinions/stories from some people and I got just that. The movie just made me think "Wow, do hookups really turn into relationships?" The movie did not make me think, "Oh I should go do hookups now", and neather did any of these replies make me think that.

I've learned the old saying "Different strokes for different folkes". That things will happen when you don't expect them to. So again I want to thank everyone again for there replies.