Your future?

[Malec]

So, I'm just curious, how many of you have your future planned out? Do you know what you want to do for the rest of your life???

I'm 23 years old and I don't really know where I see myself in the future. Quite frankly, the future scares the shit out of me. Also, the thought of doing a job for the rest of my life is exhausting to me. I have a job now and I keep going to school on and off for it. I enjoy my job, but at the same time, I'm already bored with it.

I hate school. I'm a terrible student. I hate going, but need to go as it is a requirement for my job. I have other passions and interests, but again the thought of doing one thing forever is tiresome. I don't need to be judged for the anything, btw. So if you're going to judge than back up and leave.

I'm just curious if anyone else feels like this or has felt like this. Maybe some advice?

[lauj]

hello, I don't have my future planned out but I just go with it. And that kind of worries me a lot. I'm afraid that I might become homeless or end up on the shitty end. Even after I get my degree (IF), I don't know what I want to do with it. Do I go for my 4 years or do I just quit and get a better job. The job I have now, I really like but It doesn't pay too much. Maybe you can find a job where you do something different each day, maybe join the military than they can pay for schooling. All I can say is do what makes you happy but don't put everything into one bucket have options. Sorry my advice giving is really really bad.

[MisterLove]

'The future? I've seen the future. There's no future in the future.'

[Emiliano]

Academically I have a very clear vision of what I want. I know the type of work I want to do, and I'm already in that field. Once I get my masters, I may want to grow more than my current position will really allow for, maybe change to and work in a different museum, but I haven't quite got that planned for yet. In terms of my personal life, I have no plans. Only that I want to stay in this city.

[MisterLove]

I'm 37 y.o. so I no longer make big plans. Unless some huge surprise takes place, the rest of my life is going to be pretty mediocre and I'm ok with that.

[Jake]

So, I'm just curious, how many of you have your future planned out? Do you know what you want to do for the rest of your life???

I'm 23 years old and I don't really know where I see myself in the future. Quite frankly, the future scares the shit out of me. Also, the thought of doing a job for the rest of my life is exhausting to me. I have a job now and I keep going to school on and off for it. I enjoy my job, but at the same time, I'm already bored with it.

I hate school. I'm a terrible student. I hate going, but need to go as it is a requirement for my job. I have other passions and interests, but again the thought of doing one thing forever is tiresome. I don't need to be judged for the anything, btw. So if you're going to judge than back up and leave.

I'm just curious if anyone else feels like this or has felt like this. Maybe some advice?

Well, let's view it this way. Your future is never written in advance, you can go and study as much as you want and Oups! Something changed in your life that would make you do that turn that you didn't want to do, but you end up doing it anyway. The best film (one of my favorite) with this philosophy was Back To The Future trilogy. Forget about the fantastic parts, but the message was pretty real and straight to the point; you can plan ahead as much as you want but your future is never written in advance. My first girlfriend didn't plan on getting in a car accident and die at 17, Alex (my husband) didn't plan to be kicked out of his family home at 15 and be shipped to its aunt in Canada, neither did he planned on becoming a doctor, he was already working as a nurse.

As a business owner, and because my companies make millions a year I am obligated to plan ahead. But when I first started the project - which was a project management consulting service for self-starter, I was 23 years old, had a 3 years old daughter, was in university and had a part-time job.

When I was a kid my dream was to become an Animator for Disney, yes, I know quite unusual from the Firefighter, Cops, etc. I was and still am a very good illustrator, I have designed my own company logo for many of the services I offer.

Then later on I've got the bite for literature, and I was a very good story teller, one of my stories even made it to the hall of fame of Quebec's youth writer.

The I wanted to become a Doctor because my dad was a doctor without borders and I traveled with him. That died in the bud so wuick when I found out that I sucked so much at math LOL

And at 15, I started dating a girl and having sex with guys. Dropped out of high school,.
16 years old went back to school, but I was still bored, and didn't stay long.
At age 17, my girlfriend and best friend died in a car accident, and I got so depressed I needed a change so I enrolled with Canada World Youth, which was an organization to provide teenager with international training. This leads me to Venezuela for 6 months where I have met Mary Sandy's mother. Mary Sandy was conceived in Venezuela.

Came back to Canada, needed a job, and decided to dance, this lead very quickly to becoming an escort.

At 18 I've started my Sociology degree, and a year after I pause it to go in France so I could complete a certificate in diplomatic studies.

In France I was introduced to the JDC Studio (Jean-Daniel Cadinot), while studying I was also doing photo shoot which quickly lead to having sex on camera.

Came back to Canada, I was 22, and to my studies and while planning the arrival of Mary-Sandy and her mother, I started working on developing a new project with another friend of mine.

Until I reached to 23, where I've launched the new project and entered Psychology in university.

In between all this I have been traveling, took different courses, learned computer to a level that I'm called a Network & System Engineer (all self-taught)

I stopped planning in advance early and when with what my guts dedicated and well I'm doing good, from one kid I ended up with 5, from 1 degree, I have 4 completed and one on the go, from a confused bisexual I married a guy.

NOTHING IS PLANNED IN ADVANCE as for your future. Life doesn't follow a straight line. I never planned to have 5 kids and married a guy, but I certainly not regret it

[matty7]

I'm 37 y.o. so I no longer make big plans. Unless some huge surprise takes place, the rest of my life is going to be pretty mediocre and I'm ok with that.

I pretty much agree with your statement, unless I win the lottery then I don't see a radical change happening ever, in your teens and twenty's you can make plans - after that your basically pissing in the wind

[Bowyn Aerrow]

The only solid plan I have is that I am going to die.

Someday it will happen.

Everyone thought I would be the one to die before I was 40 and leave behind a pretty corpse.. Well guess what, I have outlived nearly everyone of them.

I'm 48 and didn't follow The Plan.... I had one, way back in the stone age... It got 'slightly' derailed. Alcohol, drugs, turns out I'm gay too.... Didn't see that one coming.

I had my list of things to do, my future laid out then life happened.

I am suspicious of middle aged people who started out at 18 with a plan and have followed it. Seems to me they flat refused to actually live life.

The very few people I have known who started out adulthood with a plan and stuck to it are the most miserable people I ever met. They got them self stuck in careers or life paths which they discovered wasn't really them, but out of fear that they are a failure if they don't stick to the plan they stay in an untenable situation and force themselves to finish The Plan. they end up sacrificing themselves, and sowing the seeds of regret in a long endless furrow from childhood to the grave.

The ones who started out a plan and ended up in a way different part of the universe than their plan dictated, tend to be the happiest, most mellow individuals one can find.

Not so much because life took them places, but because they accepted that life happens and instead of bemoaning the fact, they embrace it and take from it what they could.


Now I'm not saying to forget all goals... some goals in life are important, like you know, paying bills so you still have a roof over you head.

[Edward]

To be honest, I live for today. You can never know what'll happen to you tomorrow, so I don't see a point of making huge plans.

[TwisttheLeaf]

I don't plan out my future. I have a few goals to work towards achieving, but they're not plans so much as little carrots dangling out their in space (placed by me) to keep life interesting.

I wouldn't worry too much about the master plan tho. There's a reason for that saying about best laid plans yeah? Shit changes, interests change. LIFE happens and changes your direction. If you're too rigidly focused on one specific future, you might end up fighting against what could very well be an even better one.