09-16-2014, 09:26 PM
No shouldn't change things now.
The first 6 years of a child are the more formative. Patterns set in a kids life in those years are set for life and no amount of therapy works to successfully break the good nor bad of those years.
Seems to me you got more than just a good friend in this fella.
I think you should really, really truly consider keeping him as the second dad for the rest of her life.
No not always living there with you when you marry a woman, but keeping him as a close family member... Might even want to consider legal joint custody.... I have no idea how that would work out, visiting rights, the ability for her to choose to spend half the year or something like that with him.
The first 6 years of a child are the more formative. Patterns set in a kids life in those years are set for life and no amount of therapy works to successfully break the good nor bad of those years.
Seems to me you got more than just a good friend in this fella.
I think you should really, really truly consider keeping him as the second dad for the rest of her life.
No not always living there with you when you marry a woman, but keeping him as a close family member... Might even want to consider legal joint custody.... I have no idea how that would work out, visiting rights, the ability for her to choose to spend half the year or something like that with him.