09-23-2014, 05:11 AM
Hello all,
This is a bit of a complex story and it has me really troubled. I'm in an over a year-long monogamous relationship with my boyfriend. Things have been going really well but recently while I was abroad he told me about a time where he kissed another guy while he was drunk. He was very distraught about this and because he told me the truth I forgave him. It wasn't really that big of a deal but it did sow the seeds of doubt in the back of my mind.
Fast forward to the recent past where I noticed he had a grindr on his phone but I didn't press him about it because we are very trusting and tell each other everything. Then one day curiosity got the best of me. I made a fake grindr using a picture of a very pretty guy and activated it in my area. I looked for my boyfriend and to my dismay I saw a picture of his body that looked just like him. I engaged him on grinder (as this fictional guy) and he told me enough information about himself that I was sure it was my boyfriend. (his physical appearance and major at our college gave it away directly) Then after we talked for a while he said that he would trade nude photos with me after he got to know me better and even mentioned that he would be down to hook-up. Later on in our conversation he even said that he wanted to go on a date although he said he wasn't actually looking for a relationship. He wouldn't respond to my question about whether or not he was dating someone.
Reading that message absolutely killed me and i deleted the grindr shortly thereafter. I feel bad that I somewhat coaxed my boyfriend into saying these things but does this mean that he doesn't love me? does it mean i'm not good or satisfying enough or is he just being a guy?
Please give me all your advice, im in desperate need.
This is a bit of a complex story and it has me really troubled. I'm in an over a year-long monogamous relationship with my boyfriend. Things have been going really well but recently while I was abroad he told me about a time where he kissed another guy while he was drunk. He was very distraught about this and because he told me the truth I forgave him. It wasn't really that big of a deal but it did sow the seeds of doubt in the back of my mind.
Fast forward to the recent past where I noticed he had a grindr on his phone but I didn't press him about it because we are very trusting and tell each other everything. Then one day curiosity got the best of me. I made a fake grindr using a picture of a very pretty guy and activated it in my area. I looked for my boyfriend and to my dismay I saw a picture of his body that looked just like him. I engaged him on grinder (as this fictional guy) and he told me enough information about himself that I was sure it was my boyfriend. (his physical appearance and major at our college gave it away directly) Then after we talked for a while he said that he would trade nude photos with me after he got to know me better and even mentioned that he would be down to hook-up. Later on in our conversation he even said that he wanted to go on a date although he said he wasn't actually looking for a relationship. He wouldn't respond to my question about whether or not he was dating someone.
Reading that message absolutely killed me and i deleted the grindr shortly thereafter. I feel bad that I somewhat coaxed my boyfriend into saying these things but does this mean that he doesn't love me? does it mean i'm not good or satisfying enough or is he just being a guy?
Please give me all your advice, im in desperate need.