11-11-2014, 06:41 AM
dear members,
i used to chat with men from dating sites (for relationship) and men from penpal sites (for making friends).
i feel i am not good in starting conversations. normally this is how i try to initiate a conversation by talking about the following topics.
1. knowing their name and age
2. which country and city they live
3. whether they are staying with their parents or alone
4. their family background
5. where they work or study
6. their favourite food, pastime, songs and so on
7. whether they own pets
and so on
is this an acceptable way to converse on the first date? do you find the topics are too boring and will make you not interested in the other party? if it is not, what is the best way to begin the conversation?
why i am saying this is because most people stop talking to me after the first or second chat. i feel maybe they find me too boring and not interesting.
i feel happy and positive when talking to them and knowing more about them. but when they do not contact me anymore, it makes me feel that something was wrong about me.
what other topics should i include which will make the conversation more meaningful?
what topics should be avoided?
another thing is that some men asked me directly on the first chat whether i have sex before and how i found out i am gay. is it alright to talk about such issues on the first chat? i feel it is personal and that asking it on the first chat seems too fast.
i used to chat with men from dating sites (for relationship) and men from penpal sites (for making friends).
i feel i am not good in starting conversations. normally this is how i try to initiate a conversation by talking about the following topics.
1. knowing their name and age
2. which country and city they live
3. whether they are staying with their parents or alone
4. their family background
5. where they work or study
6. their favourite food, pastime, songs and so on
7. whether they own pets
and so on
is this an acceptable way to converse on the first date? do you find the topics are too boring and will make you not interested in the other party? if it is not, what is the best way to begin the conversation?
why i am saying this is because most people stop talking to me after the first or second chat. i feel maybe they find me too boring and not interesting.
i feel happy and positive when talking to them and knowing more about them. but when they do not contact me anymore, it makes me feel that something was wrong about me.
what other topics should i include which will make the conversation more meaningful?
what topics should be avoided?
another thing is that some men asked me directly on the first chat whether i have sex before and how i found out i am gay. is it alright to talk about such issues on the first chat? i feel it is personal and that asking it on the first chat seems too fast.