01-22-2015, 06:49 AM
Matt, I read your opening post right after you wrote it a few days ago and now I'm glad I didn't reply first. In fact I'm going to wait on replying to threads like yours from now on so that guys like you can get the real good advice from the guys who've already given you theirs.
All I can say is there is no rule book or instructions on coming out. It's all about when you are ready to do it and if you are ready to do it. Don't let anyone push you into it. It's more about when you have accepted yourself than others. Don't forget that.
I slipped up at 13 and said something to my brother that let him know for sure I was gay even before I had any idea I really was attracted to guys in that way. He told my parents and all of them were real supportive of me and from the time I was 13 until I went in the marines after graduation they always let me know (in little ways without confronting me) that if I was gay they didn't care. I didn't come out to them until I was 20... stupid huh? It took me that long to really accept myself.
It's different for everyone. Just concentrate on being yourself, not pretending to be someone you're not just to please others and things should go okay. If you start pretending (dating girls because everyone else is and going out of your way to make people believe you're straight) remember all of them will have a full right to be upset when they find out you're gay because you deceived them.
All I can say is there is no rule book or instructions on coming out. It's all about when you are ready to do it and if you are ready to do it. Don't let anyone push you into it. It's more about when you have accepted yourself than others. Don't forget that.
I slipped up at 13 and said something to my brother that let him know for sure I was gay even before I had any idea I really was attracted to guys in that way. He told my parents and all of them were real supportive of me and from the time I was 13 until I went in the marines after graduation they always let me know (in little ways without confronting me) that if I was gay they didn't care. I didn't come out to them until I was 20... stupid huh? It took me that long to really accept myself.
It's different for everyone. Just concentrate on being yourself, not pretending to be someone you're not just to please others and things should go okay. If you start pretending (dating girls because everyone else is and going out of your way to make people believe you're straight) remember all of them will have a full right to be upset when they find out you're gay because you deceived them.