about my sexuality

[Anonymous]

just a doubt, is it a must to have sex in order to find out your sexual orientation?

i have not fucked with a guy before ( and with a girl as well ).

but i develop strong liking for guys.
i prefer looking nude photos of guys and not girls at all.
i enjoy being touched by guys and never enjoy that with girls.
even if i watch straight porn, i only focus and admire the guy and not at the girl at all.
even when imagining, i can only bring myself to imagine myself in a relationship with a guy and derive satisfaction with it. never with a girl.

based on all these, is it right to identify myself as a homosexual? do i really need to have sex to confirm my sexuality?

[meridannight]

no you don't have to have sex to know your sexual orientation.

i knew i liked guys sexually before i ever had sex with one. because i know what is sexy, i know what gets me off. there was never no confusion about that.

[Nanaki]

It sounds to me like you are pretty definite about which gender you are attracted to. It is not necessary to have sex with a guy to know that men are who your mind, heart, and body want.

[Hardheaded1]

I think you have answered that as adequately as any man has.

[BlueStar]

That's how you find out about your sexual orientation, and choosing with who to have sex is a result of it.

[princealbertofb]

That's how you find out about your sexual orientation, and choosing with who to have sex is a result of it.

You're saying : choosing who you have sex with is the result of finding out what your sexual orientation is... (ok, I get it, but)...

Not completely true, Blue Star... you might find out that you're more interested in men and still have sex with a woman because that's what society expects of a man... You would choose who to have sex with, but you wouldn't be following your sexual orientation. So unless, you were attracted to both genders and were bisexual, of course, the results of your findings would not necessarily orient you to the gender that suits your needs, your desires and your yearnings.

[Virge]

Hmmmm It sounds sorta like you've made up your mind you want a car instead of a bicycle, doesn't it?

Now all you have to do is start looking around and test driving a few before you decide on one.

[Rareboy]

Don't forget to kick the tires too.

some of us like that.

[BlueStar]

You're saying : choosing who you have sex with is the result of finding out what your sexual orientation is... (ok, I get it, but)...

Not completely true, Blue Star... you might find out that you're more interested in men and still have sex with a woman because that's what society expects of a man... You would choose who to have sex with, but you wouldn't be following your sexual orientation. So unless, you were attracted to both genders and were bisexual, of course, the results of your findings would not necessarily orient you to the gender that suits your needs, your desires and your yearnings.

Well as far as I know that's not the case for most of us. I certainly would never want to have sex with a girl I don't like just because society demands it. There are always limits when we follow social rules, and from both sides.

The sentence in bold is a big part of my sexual experiences.

[princealbertofb]

Well as far as I know that's not the case for most of us. I certainly would never want to have sex with a girl I don't like just because society demands it. There are always limits when we follow social rules, and from both sides.

The sentence in bold is a big part of my sexual experiences.

The sentence you initially wrote, dear Blue Star, had two things in it.
1) the way to discover your sexual orientation : you find out what you like, and what turns you on... so far, so good.
2) what you discover then makes you make the right choice for yourself... (which is what your sentence implied)...
That's the part I had trouble with, at least the rhetoric of it. Because you've been lucky to discover your orientation and to make the right choice after that.
So many will still make a choice that doesn't coincide with what would be mentally and physically good for them, for all sort of reasons, generally due to societal pressures or religious or parental pressures.
viz : My Husband's NOT Gay that I published in another thread.
https://gayspeak.com/showthread.php?t=35490