Broke Up With Danny Tonight

[Camfer]

It's likely that the intersection of his issues with yours makes a relationship between the two of you very difficult, if not impossible. Still, there's a lot you like about the guy and you two could be friends. You could choose to communicate further with him, not so much to reestablish a budding relationship, but to salvage a friendship that could be pretty good.

[CellarDweller]

you did the right thing....friends can be very hard to come by, and Danny sounds like he's insecure and controlling.

[trywait]

it's about trust. if the other guy is feeling insecure and has trust issues, therein lies the problem. but we're just outsiders looking in.

as for your friend danny, he seems like a good buddy. those are hard to find and keep.

[princealbertofb]

I think Danny made it happen, not you. It is basically his fault for not managing to apologise for his insecurities and his silly jealousy. Maybe there's something in his history that explains this insecurity, but he wasn't adult enough to see your relationship with Kevin with the right glasses on. So probably you are better off without him. Maybe he's set you free because he couldn't cope with the relationship moving too quickly, too well with you. Maybe he wasn't seeing things straight, or maybe he was just looking for a reason to back out of the relationship. No one who really cared about you would have behaved so selfishly and so stupidly, surely? No, it's not nice to feel manipulated. Probably good riddance in the long run.

[princealbertofb]

it's about trust. if the other guy is feeling insecure and has trust issues, therein lies the problem. but we're just outsiders looking in.

as for your friend danny, he seems like a good buddy. those are hard to find and keep.

I think you got the names mixed up. It's Kevin who's a good friend. Danny was the former lover.

[Pyromancer]

Kevin is correct.

So he loves to remind me...

Do you mean correct in saying that Danny is insecure? Correct in saying that I should talk to Danny? Or are you agreeing with him that he's infallible and if I just listened to him, my life would be far pleasanter...

[MikeW]

[MENTION=22470]Pyromancer[/MENTION] : Yes, Danny sounds insecure and (frankly) manipulative and immature. I hate it when someone tries to pull crap like that on me. It's good that you didn't let him manipulate you. Excellent personal boundary maintenance!

[trywait]

I think you got the names mixed up. It's Kevin who's a good friend. Danny was the former lover.

same smell, but you knew the point I was trying to make!



pardon if my pidgin comes out! it's all good

[Hardheaded1]

I'm sorry to hear it.

It's possible you pushed Danny away and fled to the security of Kevin. Maybe Danny DID see that and reacted to it, even if badly. His "insecurity" might have been ok before the epiphany that he wasn't preferred. He may have feared being used. He may have been used.

Of course, I don't know. I wasn't there to see any of it. None of us were. None of us really know.

And whichever was true, it doesn't make one of you right and the other wrong in this scenario, even if the slice we got sounds one-sided against Danny.

I'm sorry it happened, or more specifically, sorry you are sorry, although it's not clear how sorry that is. Relationships are certainly complex, and guys give off all sorts of signals both ways. Think about that, although it sounds like you already have.

At any rate, I'm glad you have such a good friend in Kevin. Nice to have one without the tensions, but maybe that's why it is possible, because it is without romantic tension.

[Pyromancer]

same smell, but you knew the point I was trying to make!



pardon if my pidgin comes out! it's all good

Pigeon? Nah, clearly an elegant yet lethal red-tailed hawk (don't get your feathers ruffled, that was a compliment...)

I don't know the point you were trying to make...Elucidate?

I live to learn