Just need to rant about something guys....

[Rareboy]

Sadly to say...I think that the passion and focus is all one sided.

Maybe time for you to make it clear to him that you are non-exclusive.

[Anonymous]

Thanks again you guys.

Mike, it will be interesting how this all turns out. I do wanna talk to him. But the times before I've always pussed out and just not brought it up. Like I said, we've had this convo before, me and him. Hes said stuff like "I like you enough to date. Like I really like your personality. I don't have another friend like you. You're the only who I can say" let's drive to the mall and walk around"and your just like "Ok, what time?" I'm just afraid that a relationship will ruin our friendship." or at least that's all I can remember. So take that as you may. Supposed to hang out with him tonight, after hanging out with him last night. Lol. I think I finally have the balls to say something tonight. Plus my friends are supporting me, telling me to talk to him. If I do talk to him, I'll let you/y'all know what happens.

Rareboy, what do you mean? I'm don't mean to sound sassy, that's not my intention. I'm just curious about who you think all the passion and focus is coming from. Im guessing me, I just wanna make sure. Haha. And why make it clear that I'm non-exclusive?

I'm at work and got bored so I've been brainstorming on what I'm gonna say.

"So. *insert his name here*. We've talked about this before. But I feel like we need to kinda revaluate where we are since we've gotten closer and more comfortable with each other. Where do you see yourself in this relationship? *insert his response* Well, here's where I see myself. I like you. I wanna be exclusive with you. That doesn't mean we have to go around telling everyone were boyfriends, but I gotta know where I stand. I can't be teetering on the edge of friendship and relarionship anymore. The confusion is well....confusing. And I don't like to be confused. *And then, see what he says back.*

[Borg69]

I've seen guy's like this before. Flirty. Aloof. Self depreciating. Arrogant. Constant night and day aggravation. You chase them endlessly as they reject you until you pull away- then they give enough to keep you hanging on. "We're just friends"... yet his actions imply far more.

They like being chased. They like the attention. You'll never be their Mr. Right. You're their Mr. You'll Do For Now - because they don't want to be alone place holder until something better comes along.

You might get one or two drunken nights in a moment of their weakness but that's it. Either you'll eventually get tired of chasing after something that never happens, or they'll meet their Mr. Right and drop you like a hot rock.

[Anonymous]

Well, you guys. I did it. I finally did it. I talked to him. I feel like Im going to fucking throw up. He really hurt me. Sounds cliche but it's true.

Well, I'll start out by saying that I was at my friend's house. And we were just hanging around, her, me, and him, and her mom sat down. She asked "so, how long had you guys been dating?" He instantly said that we weren't dating. UMMM EXCUSE ME. WE'VE BEEN DATING FOR 3 MONTHES. So that's how that went.

Later, when he was leaving, I talked to him. I told him, "look, for my own sanity I need to know where we are. Where are we going with this?" I'll tell you some the crap he said. He said a lot of I don't know. He said that in a general sense, yes we were dating. Not dating as boyfriends. He said that he didn't know if he wanted that serious of an obligation, to be tied down. What if one of us meets a guy we like, "like a one night stand." I was kinda confused about that. So I said explain, all he said was "what if you meet someone." I said I haven't. I've been trying to focus on this. And he said, exactly. I then told him that "sometimes I don't even think that you like me." He said, "that's not true. I like you. I just don't know where you want this to go. And sometimes I feel like you get annoyed with me." I said "well, yeah. I do get annoyed sometimes. That happens to everybody. Doesn't mean I don't like you. I wanna be with you. Just you. Get it?" Then after that I was freezing ass off since I was standing outside, so I made the rest of it quick. I mentioned something an open relationship and he said something about me not being that type of person. That was honestly true, I don't think I could deal with that.

As he left he openned his arms again, since we had already hugged earlier, this time he didn't want to hug. We made out for a good couple minutes. Just enough to get me hard. And he said "have fun walking back inside" and just smiled.

So. Two choices. I can fucking drop him like its hot. Or. I can get going down the relationship path with him. Potentially settig myself up for great failure. And a broken heart. BUT. Also a chance of winning big and being in a relationship with him.

IDK. I just need a day to think.

[Rareboy]

You should have taken my advice.

[trywait]

at least you know now