In pursuit of some honest advice/opinions

[LONDONER]

How can you be sure that the pictures he has posted really are of him?

[Rareboy]

Surely you can do better.

Isn't it time to move on and let him find someone else to feed his unhealthy ego?

You do realize that he/she is probably just using the pics you send him to create another profile and snare in someone else.

[yousir]

FFS i typed a post in here then edited it and its disappeared.

[JohnSomebody]

How can you be sure that the pictures he has posted really are of him?

Well...I know because there are hundreds of pictures of him in various poses and scenes and even laying in the bed. He also post videos of himself as well. In other words, he never take advantage of a moment to show himself off especially with selfies.

[JohnSomebody]

Surely you can do better.

Isn't it time to move on and let him find someone else to feed his unhealthy ego?

You do realize that he/she is probably just using the pics you send him to create another profile and snare in someone else.

Of course I can do better and I am...I do date guys in my city often as I can. I responded to this guy initially because I had given him some advice and pursued me after that was done. However, I have come to the decision to not entertain him anymore because I believe that he feels that because I have not played upon his pursuits or respond to him the way all the other guys do to his nude pics ...I am sure that this pisses him off which makes him wonder what is it about me or if I'm real because I tend to keep things private and not share everything on social media.

[Rareboy]

Of course I can do better and I am...I do date guys in my city often as I can. I responded to this guy initially because I had given him some advice and pursued me after that was done. However, I have come to the decision to not entertain him anymore because I believe that he feels that because I have not played upon his pursuits or respond to him the way all the other guys do to his nude pics ...I am sure that this pisses him off which makes him wonder what is it about me or if I'm real because I tend to keep things private and not share everything on social media.

Wise decision to not let him keep using you....time to detach from this sociopath.

[Bowyn Aerrow]

Rule 237: Beware the Catfish.


I tried the OK cupid thing for a short time, and there were a lot of guys who claimed to be interested in relationships and stuff like that, but ultimately they were looking for5 masturbation material (seriously guys asked me to send nudes of myself to them) or they were looking to play some sort of game where they could feed their ego for a while and them go along their happy way leaving a wake of destruction.

Then there are the sex-starved ones who lie through their teeth saying they want a relationship, but in reality all they want is to bugger you, or get buggered.

In your case it seems like you have a buggering incident mixed with a lot of 'lets play a game so I can fuck with your mind for a while'.

After the experiences I have had on the internet with so called people - I have come to the conclusion that trust is a thing that should be given sparingly.

Now I get sexual attraction and how powerful a motivator that could be - however I can tell you that visual cues alone (*pictures* do not determine attraction and compatability. Things like scent, tone of voice, how a person fills the space when they are standing there - these can have a much more profound impact on sexual and other compatibilities.

As for being a private person who doesn't sent your nude selfies to any person who drops you a text message - the reality is that is the safest and most sane way to deal with life - safer and more sane is to not take nude selfies at all, and kill anyone who tries to film your having sex with them (after the sex is over, murder just doesn't have that orgasmic pleasure that sex does).

Since you have this shyness/introversion and it is part of your personality and character, hold on to it and don't be ashamed that you feel _______________when _________(fill in the blanks).

Any guy who is going to get in a relationship with you is going to have to like the person you are - not a person you pretend to be because you feel that society demands that you be that person.

That means if a guy cannot accept your unwillingness to play the nude photo swap or other things that is HIS problem. Not yours.

[meridannight]

where does the catfish term come from? or what does it even mean? (I can get the broad general idea behind it, i think, but i'm not familiar with it at all). dictionary doesn't have it....

[JohnSomebody]

Does he post numerous pictures of himself at the gym. if so, that would top the narcissism off.

The worst is that he blasted you in a public post about something you discussed privately? Thats basically breaking confidentiality and disrespecting your boundaries. He has no respect for you. He doesnt care about your work. Hes not interested in you. And you sent him naked pictures of yourself? Thats incredibly risky.

Thank you Yousir for responding to my post....He has submitted pics and videos of him working out...the thing is that is what really bothering me is the fact that he blast me out on social media about something that has been discussed and I thought handled privately between us. Also, like I've mentioned I rarely submit naked pics due to a horrible past experience...but this time the pics were edit not to show my face and just certain body parts. Another thing is that the social network that I've met him is something that I do not frequent on a daily basis....just a few days a week and just for the time of checking mail, etc. but he is on there numerous times a day. Nonetheless...I have been very upfront with him in regard to where I stand or my situation so for him to do this to me ....I know now that I do not want anything to do with him and I am going delete him altogether.

[JohnSomebody]

Rule 237: B

I tried the OK cupid thing for a short time, and there were a lot of guys who claimed to be interested in relationships and stuff like that, but ultimately they were looking for5 masturbation material (seriously guys asked me to send nudes of myself to them) or they were looking to play some sort of game where they could feed their ego for a while and them go along their happy way leaving a wake of destruction.

Then there are the sex-starved ones who lie through their teeth saying they want a relationship, but in reality all they want is to bugger you, or get buggered.

In your case it seems like you have a buggering incident mixed with a lot of 'lets play a game so I can fuck with your mind for a while'.

After the experiences I have had on the internet with so called people - I have come to the conclusion that trust is a thing that should be given sparingly.

Now I get sexual attraction and how powerful a motivator that could be - however I can tell you that visual cues alone (*pictures* do not determine attraction and compatability. Things like scent, tone of voice, how a person fills the space when they are standing there - these can have a much more profound impact on sexual and other compatibilities.

As for being a private person who doesn't sent your nude selfies to any person who drops you a text message - the reality is that is the safest and most sane way to deal with life - safer and more sane is to not take nude selfies at all, and kill anyone who tries to film your having sex with them (after the sex is over, murder just doesn't have that orgasmic pleasure that sex does).

Since you have this shyness/introversion and it is part of your personality and character, hold on to it and don't be ashamed that you feel _______________when _________(fill in the blanks).

Any guy who is going to get in a relationship with you is going to have to like the person you are - not a person you pretend to be because you feel that society demands that you be that person.

That means if a guy cannot accept your unwillingness to play the nude photo swap or other things that is HIS problem. Not yours.

Thank you Bowen Aerrow for your very thoughtful and precise response...I have to say that what I found interesting in this guy initially was the conversation that he offered at the beginning...he seemed to be very charming at the beginning...however...it did not take me long to see that he had a naked selfie problem and he loved to post the pics where he gets all of the comments and approvals. Like I said....I am pretty private and I rarely exchange any kind of nude pics of myself...and if by chance I do...my face is cropped out and its just body parts...In fact, the account was opened for me by a close friend without my knowledge initially and he had used certain pics of mine that was taken from various photo albums that my late partner used to have of me and edit them. I am a very strong individual and I am not the type that goes along with the games that society plays...I have a very small, but close circle of friends that have been in my life for over 15 years and I like it like that. All in all...I need to delete this guy and forget I even had any exchanges with him because the more he attacks me on social media for not giving into his ploy...the more I know that he has some serious issues. ..and I completely understand why such a handsome guy is very single.