06-06-2015, 04:56 PM
My flatmate's girlfriend is one of them! A major problem!
Mate of mine recently moved in with me, it's a short term thing whilst he's looking for somewhere else because despite the fact that we've known each other years and love each other dearly - we know we cannot live together! Domestically we drive each other insane!
But he's one of my best mates and I would quite literally trust him with my life. But he has a new girlfriend and whilst on the surface she seemed perfectly polite and nice, when we're alone she makes odd, passive aggressive comments and I always feel like she's giving me evils. None of our other straight friends have any problems with her but another gay friend of mine visited whilst she was here and said he was getting definite vibes from her!
So I decided to broach the topic with my mate, we've always been able to talk about everything and anything. He said she isn't homophobic but said that I was the first gay man she ever met and that she comes from a really conservative background and she's probably just trying to "adjust". He said she definitely likes me though and he would never for a second put up with anyone being negative or homophobic towards me and I believe this.
But she has done something since then that could have far reaching consequences! Anyone who's read my other threads will know of my relationship/series of complicated/farcical situations with an actor. Well, we're back together! That is to say, we're fucking on a regular basis and yea, its still complicated.
The other day he came around to my flat in the morning, my mate was gone to work and I presumed I had the place to myself. He and I got a little heated on the sofa and suddenly I heard a noise. I paused things and went to check if my mate had come back. But it was HER, his girlfriend! She had been in the flat the whole time. And the cheeky cow had taken a photo of us on the sofa! She waved in front of me on the screen of her phone laughing. She recognised my actor as being on tv but couldn't remember his name. She asked if it was really him, I was totally focused on the photo and not wanting him to realise what was going on because he would FREAK! I asked her to delete the photo but she just kept laughing and refused. She grabbed her bag and left.
Later on I called my mate, told him what happened and told him how important it was she delete the photo - not to mention how weird and creepy it was she took it in the first place! He said he'd have a word and when he got home he said there was nothing to worry about, she did it as a joke. He isn't clear however on whether she deleted it. I am so terrified it's going to turn up online somewhere and I don't know what to do. Do I take his word for it that it was just a moment of stupidity and a bad sense of humour on her part or do I need to tell my actor that he should maybe start preparing for a scandal? Is there any way I could block her from sharing the photo?
Mate of mine recently moved in with me, it's a short term thing whilst he's looking for somewhere else because despite the fact that we've known each other years and love each other dearly - we know we cannot live together! Domestically we drive each other insane!
But he's one of my best mates and I would quite literally trust him with my life. But he has a new girlfriend and whilst on the surface she seemed perfectly polite and nice, when we're alone she makes odd, passive aggressive comments and I always feel like she's giving me evils. None of our other straight friends have any problems with her but another gay friend of mine visited whilst she was here and said he was getting definite vibes from her!
So I decided to broach the topic with my mate, we've always been able to talk about everything and anything. He said she isn't homophobic but said that I was the first gay man she ever met and that she comes from a really conservative background and she's probably just trying to "adjust". He said she definitely likes me though and he would never for a second put up with anyone being negative or homophobic towards me and I believe this.
But she has done something since then that could have far reaching consequences! Anyone who's read my other threads will know of my relationship/series of complicated/farcical situations with an actor. Well, we're back together! That is to say, we're fucking on a regular basis and yea, its still complicated.
The other day he came around to my flat in the morning, my mate was gone to work and I presumed I had the place to myself. He and I got a little heated on the sofa and suddenly I heard a noise. I paused things and went to check if my mate had come back. But it was HER, his girlfriend! She had been in the flat the whole time. And the cheeky cow had taken a photo of us on the sofa! She waved in front of me on the screen of her phone laughing. She recognised my actor as being on tv but couldn't remember his name. She asked if it was really him, I was totally focused on the photo and not wanting him to realise what was going on because he would FREAK! I asked her to delete the photo but she just kept laughing and refused. She grabbed her bag and left.
Later on I called my mate, told him what happened and told him how important it was she delete the photo - not to mention how weird and creepy it was she took it in the first place! He said he'd have a word and when he got home he said there was nothing to worry about, she did it as a joke. He isn't clear however on whether she deleted it. I am so terrified it's going to turn up online somewhere and I don't know what to do. Do I take his word for it that it was just a moment of stupidity and a bad sense of humour on her part or do I need to tell my actor that he should maybe start preparing for a scandal? Is there any way I could block her from sharing the photo?