Reasons to end a relationship

[ShiftyNJ]

I ask him all time why he left me, he finally came up with a reason: "we couldn't do much together, i am more social with other guys now" this pisses me off because he was the one who always didn't want to go out with me because he was ashamed of "being gay in public" although we hanged out as "friends". i think he just created a fake reason and he was already bored of me, he said he cant last long relationships... i still feel injustice inside me, that i did nothing to end relationship, i didnt push him to change himself, always were behind him, didnt use him like you said... but in the end, even if you feel this relationship ended even without reason, and knowing that you will hurt your partner, would you fucking leave? this is so unfair, i feel unworthy anymore and see no reason to live

I hear often that men are "wired" to be promiscuous because of the need to further build the species, and that monogamy is an artificial construct that arose out of the need to ascertain inheritance of land/property and now perpetuated by women. Thus the argument is made that gay men, who are for the most part are not producing offspring, have no need to be monogamous.

This may well be but it doesn't lend itself to lasting relationships unless both parties know this and are cool with it. I suspect that there is often a sense of "yes, but what ELSE could I have?" which is egged on by social media and dating apps. If you are a "6" that landed a "8" he's looking over your shoulder at the "9" and wondering if he could hit that.

[InbetweenDreams]

That does make sense. A friend of mine who has been with his partner for 20+ years are in an open relationship...what all they do in that department who knows, I never asked. Me personally I like the idea of a monogamous relationship and would love for it to be a lasting one.

[deltalover4]

First of all, let me say that you're a gorgeous man, and it won't be long before you find someone else. Second, some guys just have a fear of commitment. Especially if they know you're feeling more for them than what they're feeling for you. And the sad possibility is that he may be lying about leaving you for a certain reason.