12-03-2015, 01:20 PM
I really would like some advice before i make the wrong decision.
My and my partner have been seeing each other for 7 months now and i love him like no other. Mainly because its so hard to find a decent guy who actually wants a relationship and is prepared to go the distance. He was a virgin when we met at 28. It took 5 months for him to have sex with me and when it came it was amazing and he seemed ready. He stays over at mine alot and my housemates love him which is a good thing.
Its no secret to him that i have a big sexual history and i love to be intimate with my partners. If i'm with you then for sure i like you and all of your body. I very very enthusiastic when about pleasing my partner. In the past Ive left partners because they could not do the relationship bit. Now i have someone who is great in that sense but the level of intimacy has dropped.
I maybe overthinking things a bit but there are a few things that are starting to bother me and I refuse to be in a relationship with the man I love and came out for, with no sex life. Previous partners were a joy in the bedroom and loved my body so this is new to me. My current partner wears pyjamas in bed, which for me is a turn off. He was raised as a catholic and this has made me research religious people and sex. The results were not good but as i suspected. He seems to be more interested in watching reality TV and being on Facebook until I fall asleep.
He sometimes berates my exes as they would sleep with me after we broke up. It was not ideal but one thing we had in common was good sex. I think to myself now that ''at least they would never reject me''. I don't want to be one of those couple who are all smiles outside but sad faces inside.
I love him very much. We have both met the parents and all is good. My family knows all about him and that's certainly a first for me. I can imagine being with him forever but not without a very healthy sex life.
I think maybe he does not enjoy sex but when i'm inside him he looks like hes enjoying it. I can see my behavior changing and i know he will pick up on it. I'm thinking of just spending less time with him and just not making any moves at all.
I'm scared in a way because I've never had to push for sex. I don't want sex with him if he is not interested. Id rather just be friends and be with someone who values intimacy. He can be a bit paranoid as i still talk to my exes. I've reassured him that we are friends and he be accepting. I always say to him that i love all of you body but if i cant have it then what is the point?
Hes a sweet guy and is fearful of loosing me of which I'm the same. I feel that I've done everything he has asked and will continue to do so. He wants to get married but now that is a long way away for me and i'm not keen on marriage. His mother is deeply religious but down to earth. I'm staying at their for 2 nights in separate rooms of course which is fine. Hes always for 3 weeks and has never mention that fact that he would miss the sex. He also wants me to go on a family holiday with him for his 30th in 2017. I jokingly asked if we would be sleeping in the same room and having sex and he said NO!!! So already i don't to go as it would not be the best experience if i'm frustrated on holiday.
I know its early but this is how things fester. If I didn't love him then i'd just cheat but all I've ever done with him is be honest, even to the point where he had not been happy with my honesty. I really don't want to loose him but i want intimacy. Hes worried i might cheat but on the other hand hes not being intimate which is unfair i think. I just think now that hes not being 100% honest with me and i need to know now.
Any suggestions would be great!
Darryl
My and my partner have been seeing each other for 7 months now and i love him like no other. Mainly because its so hard to find a decent guy who actually wants a relationship and is prepared to go the distance. He was a virgin when we met at 28. It took 5 months for him to have sex with me and when it came it was amazing and he seemed ready. He stays over at mine alot and my housemates love him which is a good thing.
Its no secret to him that i have a big sexual history and i love to be intimate with my partners. If i'm with you then for sure i like you and all of your body. I very very enthusiastic when about pleasing my partner. In the past Ive left partners because they could not do the relationship bit. Now i have someone who is great in that sense but the level of intimacy has dropped.
I maybe overthinking things a bit but there are a few things that are starting to bother me and I refuse to be in a relationship with the man I love and came out for, with no sex life. Previous partners were a joy in the bedroom and loved my body so this is new to me. My current partner wears pyjamas in bed, which for me is a turn off. He was raised as a catholic and this has made me research religious people and sex. The results were not good but as i suspected. He seems to be more interested in watching reality TV and being on Facebook until I fall asleep.
He sometimes berates my exes as they would sleep with me after we broke up. It was not ideal but one thing we had in common was good sex. I think to myself now that ''at least they would never reject me''. I don't want to be one of those couple who are all smiles outside but sad faces inside.
I love him very much. We have both met the parents and all is good. My family knows all about him and that's certainly a first for me. I can imagine being with him forever but not without a very healthy sex life.
I think maybe he does not enjoy sex but when i'm inside him he looks like hes enjoying it. I can see my behavior changing and i know he will pick up on it. I'm thinking of just spending less time with him and just not making any moves at all.
I'm scared in a way because I've never had to push for sex. I don't want sex with him if he is not interested. Id rather just be friends and be with someone who values intimacy. He can be a bit paranoid as i still talk to my exes. I've reassured him that we are friends and he be accepting. I always say to him that i love all of you body but if i cant have it then what is the point?
Hes a sweet guy and is fearful of loosing me of which I'm the same. I feel that I've done everything he has asked and will continue to do so. He wants to get married but now that is a long way away for me and i'm not keen on marriage. His mother is deeply religious but down to earth. I'm staying at their for 2 nights in separate rooms of course which is fine. Hes always for 3 weeks and has never mention that fact that he would miss the sex. He also wants me to go on a family holiday with him for his 30th in 2017. I jokingly asked if we would be sleeping in the same room and having sex and he said NO!!! So already i don't to go as it would not be the best experience if i'm frustrated on holiday.
I know its early but this is how things fester. If I didn't love him then i'd just cheat but all I've ever done with him is be honest, even to the point where he had not been happy with my honesty. I really don't want to loose him but i want intimacy. Hes worried i might cheat but on the other hand hes not being intimate which is unfair i think. I just think now that hes not being 100% honest with me and i need to know now.
Any suggestions would be great!
Darryl