help with a virgin

[VirgoMasquerade]

Que pena. Achei que lhe estás um Top, but I guess ya truly a bottom ding lol.

However, I find ya advice to be a lil too presumptuous, because you're basing this off of stereotypical archetypes of "the Young Gay", but take note; if never done before;

How can one's envisioning be what the reality will actually be? Perhaps leaping to Safe words and endorsing negation of potential pain, is a leap too far abound my dear.


I fear everyone else has given ample examples and advice, so I have none to forward:

But I will say that at the very least, don't do anything you yourself couldn't handle or have not done or had done unto yourself.

Logistical rationale will trump sexual proclivities and/or inexperiences and ineptitudes.

Im speaking from a world of kink standpoint (idk what the fuck your talking about xD) But if anyone does something kinky they always need a safe word in case their not feeling it or something happens and need to stop

[princealbertofb]

However kinky the sex is, and it could be very vanilla in fact, I think the idea of a safe word is not a bad one. This is about dealing with levels of potential pain, but also about how the younger person will deal with that pain. If the virgin were actually asking for advice themselves I would advise them to discover what their own thresholds are by practising on themselves first (hence the buttplug idea not seeming such a bad idea, there are all sizes of them), and then they'd have at least a little idea of what to expect. But here we're dealing with an initiator who is trying to do things the best way possible. How can offering the idea of a safe word be a bad idea? It seems a pretty good way to do it, regardless of the level of kink involved. Since this would be a first time, I rather doubt that the kinkiness of the sex would go very far before something pleasurable happened. I mean, remember the excitement of your first time (if you were not coerced, of course)?

[Rareboy]

I also say...make it fun.

Focus on the erotic pleasures first and then ramp it up from there.

[princealbertofb]

I also say...make it fun.

Focus on the erotic pleasures first and then ramp it up from there.

That's probably how it will happen. People tend to forget about foreplay ; is it because of porn?