help with a virgin

[pathagen]

Hi there
I need a bit of help. I have a younger guy who has never been fucked before and wants me to take his virginity.
Can anyone suggest any ideas to make it good for him.
He really wants to be kinky and adventurous the first time and maybe even rough but I need some ideas.
It will be in a hotel room.

Can anyone suggest anything.

[princealbertofb]

Well, [MENTION=23731]pathagen[/MENTION], first I'd avoid the rough at the beginning, maybe let him get used to all of the experience of having something inside him and when he starts to be comfortable, either listen to his cues, or ask him whether he's ready for it. It's something that bears discussing as it is happening, I should think.

To make it good for him, I'd suggest being aware of his newness to this, the fact that it can sometimes hurt (so retract as soon as pain is perceived), help him to get used to your body and shape and moves gradually, plenty of lube, a bit of fingering, maybe at first, then condoms for protection because it's a good habit to take, and lastly choice of positions.

It is said to be better for a newbie to start on top, riding, which will give him control of exactly how much of you he can take, so offer him that position first (facing or facing away). Also tell him the old trick of pushing out his sphincters as if to excrete which will make penetration go more smoothly as the muscles learn to relax after the push. Lastly, angle has a lot to do with whether he can get enjoyment out of the experience, so tell him to find how and where it buzzes him. Then, maybe you can try all sorts of positions, speeds and roughness... That's up to the both of you.

[MikeW]

Hi there
I need a bit of help. I have a younger guy who has never been fucked before and wants me to take his virginity.
Can anyone suggest any ideas to make it good for him.
He really wants to be kinky and adventurous the first time and maybe even rough but I need some ideas.
It will be in a hotel room.

Can anyone suggest anything.

There's an online book "How to Bottom Like a Porn Star," available online; and its "HT Top LAPS" equivalent. Just google and you'll find them. Moreover the author has also pinned shorter online posts that cover the basics (no cost)... Sorry I don't have the links handy or I'd just give them to you but if you google around you'll probably come across them.

Most of the pain associated with bottoming has to do with position, understanding that the rectum 'bends' and the least painful position is usually one where the bottom isn't 'bent'. This may take some experimentation to find. But as [MENTION=1766]princealbertofb[/MENTION] said, I wouldn't think about getting into anything rough too quickly. True, some people take to bottoming very quickly but not everyone. There are lots of variables from sensitivity to shape of one's rectum to size amount of lube, one's readiness, ability to relax the sphincters involved and so forth. I'd recommend a LOT of foreplay and stimulation. Fingers are good. Make sure your hands are clean and your fingernails clipped (or wear a surgical glove). Sometimes smaller dildos or, if you haven't any 'toys', consider SAFE items with the right shape. By safe, obviously I mean something that is both clean, no sharp edges and non-breakable. I've used small cucumbers (thoroughly washed OFC!). It's okay to be inventive but don't do anything stupid. You don't want to injure your guy and you don't want to introduce any external bacteria.

To me its all about making it FUN in a safe way. Being open to experimenting, finding what works and what doesn't. Lots of communication both verbal and sensing what's going on.

[JohnMusic]

Lubrication.

[pathagen]

I am ok with letting him get used to it but he is more than likely want me to give him more. That's what I need help with things I can do that will give him what he wants but is still ok and safe for him

[Cridders88]

I am ok with letting him get used to it but he is more than likely want me to give him more. That's what I need help with things I can do that will give him what he wants but is still ok and safe for him

Well I don't have much experience in the matter but can I just take this opportunity to say kudos to you for being a caring lover, some men would just go in all guns blazing.

[VirgoMasquerade]

If your gonna start kinky get the kid a butt plug first.... Also set up some safe rules like safe words and understand he may try to push through stuff that maybe painful just to prove himself

[Sylph]

If your gonna start kinky get the kid a butt plug first.... Also set up some safe rules like safe words and understand he may try to push through stuff that maybe painful just to prove himself

Que pena. Achei que lhe estás um Top, but I guess ya truly a bottom ding lol.

However, I find ya advice to be a lil too presumptuous, because you're basing this off of stereotypical archetypes of "the Young Gay", but take note; if never done before;

How can one's envisioning be what the reality will actually be? Perhaps leaping to Safe words and endorsing negation of potential pain, is a leap too far abound my dear.


I fear everyone else has given ample examples and advice, so I have none to forward:

But I will say that at the very least, don't do anything you yourself couldn't handle or have not done or had done unto yourself.

Logistical rationale will trump sexual proclivities and/or inexperiences and ineptitudes.

[MikeW]

I am ok with letting him get used to it but he is more than likely want me to give him more. That's what I need help with things I can do that will give him what he wants but is still ok and safe for him

You know, seriously, you've been given plenty of good advice in this thread. Take it. Go with the flow of the thing... DO NOT OVER THINK IT. Nothing more boring than sex that is so cautious guys forget to have fun. Just ENJOY one another. TALK about what you're feeling as it is happening... stop trying to anticipate all the variables. No way you ever will, anyway.

Then come back here and give us a full report for those of us who have no real lives anyway, LOL!

[LJay]

There is much wisdom in what Mike is saying. If you really want to teach him, then he should learn with his ability to feel, not just undertake procedures.

Also, most o9f the above seems to be about eneration. That can be important, but there is much more to men having sex than that. Be sure he understands.