Is it weird that, as a lesbian, I'm interested in gay guys' sex, it's even a litlle bit hot...but straight sex is a total turn off watching or reading about it.
My first gay girl experience was so mild compared to this.... taking a walk and making out a bit. but it didn't take more than a few weeks to go further.
Oh ... oops I forgot about my first first gay experience, that one doesn't count. <Sheepish smile, backing out slowly >
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Not at all Maam, I find the same to be true too, however straight sex isn't all bad captured on film IMO...
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Cheet0V90 Wrote:Not at all Maam, I find the same to be true too, however straight sex isn't all bad captured on film IMO...
I think I find sonething about the expectations in a male/female dynamic... uncomfortable. I know this is the most basic stereotype but the woman tends to be submissive, objectified and even when she's in charge, pleasing the guy, like putting on a bit of a show ....this may be my hangup as I'm someone who has had to, well, put on a bit of a show in my past relationships, because I'm gay but I've been in too many straight relationships, so grain of salt there.
But when it comes to a man with a man or woman with a woman, it seems like it's just coming from pure attraction and desire (and sometimes love, romance, intimacy too of course). I know I'm bringing in my own baggage here so I'm happy to hear a challenge on my view.
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Just to add, like when I'm with a woman, I really want to make her feel good and she wants to do the same for me, we admire eachother' beauty/bodies but we don't expect perfection and especially this really narrow view of what beauty is. We don't expect anything but the realness of what our partner is feeling and expressing. With straight sex though, in my experience, there's so much pressure to make yourself sexy, rather than just having the experience itself and the chemistry between the two people make the whole thing hot....
Ha ....sorry if this just sounds like I'm ranting. #regretsofbeinginthecloset
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Cheet0V90 Wrote:You are LUCKY! I wish I could have done that, however my first time was only trading oral, minus the cum.. Thinking back though, I WISH I HAD TASTED HIS CUM... If it's for the taste experience you could probably taste your own, not much difference I should say. If it's the experience of tasting it gushing out, then that's different, you will probably need a willing partner.
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baristajedi Wrote:Just to add, like when I'm with a woman, I really want to make her feel good and she wants to do the same for me, we admire eachother' beauty/bodies but we don't expect perfection and especially this really narrow view of what beauty is. We don't expect anything but the realness of what our partner is feeling and expressing. With straight sex though, in my experience, there's so much pressure to make yourself sexy, rather than just having the experience itself and the chemistry between the two people make the whole thing hot.... This is true, I reckon, but are you sure hetero couples, especially those who've been together a long time, don't have the same experience of enjoying each other's bodies however old and tatty they may have become?
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Sorry but I can't challenge that opinion of yours, as I feel similarly, but the opposite to be true... Where if the guy isnt "good enough then its his fault, amd the woman goes off unsatisfied...
Baggage overall is a relative term tho, as IK I have posted my heart out on a drying rack here before... You however are fine, I just need to find the oppertunity to find a guy, and let things happen... I still live w my folks, and is a tad difficult to keep things under wraps for self preservation sadly...
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princealbertofb Wrote:This is true, I reckon, but are you sure hetero couples, especially those who've been together a long time, don't have the same experience of enjoying each other's bodies however old and tatty they may have become?
I hope so!!
I just know that so many women (straight friends) talk about the way their boyfriends/husbands expect them to have better butts, be thinner, make more noise during sex, make faces during sex, no matter how long they've been together.... early or long into the relationship. But I want the world to have good sex, so I hope this is just the ranters I'm hearing only.
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Cheet0V90 Wrote:Sorry but I can't challenge that opinion of yours, as I feel similarly, but the opposite to be true... Where if the guy isnt "good enough then its his fault, amd the woman goes off unsatisfied...
Baggage overall is a relative term tho, as IK I have posted my heart out on a drying rack here before... You however are fine, I just need to find the oppertunity to find a guy, and let things happen... I still live w my folks, and is a tad difficult to keep things under wraps for self preservation sadly...
Ah this is interesting to hear, I don't hear the straight guys' perspective of women's expectations so often. I can see that being true. As far as I can tell with men and women, a lot is missed in communication. They want certain things, they wish for their partners to understand them, but so much goes unsaid. I don't hear this issue coming up as much with my gay friends, both men and women. They've got sex issues of course, but usually there's a lot more openness and communication. That may be a bit of a generalisation, but anecdotally it seems to be the case.
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Cheet0V90 Wrote:Sorry but I can't challenge that opinion of yours, as I feel similarly, but the opposite to be true... Where if the guy isnt "good enough then its his fault, amd the woman goes off unsatisfied...
Baggage overall is a relative term tho, as IK I have posted my heart out on a drying rack here before... You however are fine, I just need to find the oppertunity to find a guy, and let things happen... I still live w my folks, and is a tad difficult to keep things under wraps for self preservation sadly...
Hey I'm sorry about your situation. I'm not familiar with your story, are you're looking to explore your sexuality? And having trouble dating men because you still live at home?
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