He should try figuring out what he likes, and see if he can find some jobs where he can do the stuff he likes.
Set a deadline for him, if he can't find some job until then, kick him out.
Tell him then that you might take him back if he gets a job.
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No problem, I get where you are coming from. I agree that we are not in a similar situation, I was more so trying to explain what your boyfriends mindset could be rather than explaining why you should be okay with it. The bottom line is you're not okay with the situation as it is. I would give your boyfriend a chance to explain what his honest problem with work is. If he doesn't have a good reason (physical, mental) then you should give him a timetable. 30 days to find work or its over, to me seems fair. If he can't even produce any sort of job at all within 30 days then it's obvious to me that his wanting to be home is more important than the relationship. From there I would think it should be obvious what you need to do next if that's indeed the case.
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Just because you kick him out of your apartment does not mean you have to break up with him. It sounds like your mindset is that he's a good boyfriend but a bad roommate. That seems so easy to fix by him moving out.
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