04-24-2010, 03:06 AM
Ok, I am posting here because the other forum I have been posting on is specifically for teens, and so I feel the most of the advice I have been receiving is based on speculation rather than experience. I'll try to paraphrase as best I can, but needless to say bunches of info will get left out. It would appear as though I can't post links, so if you want to read the other (very long) thread, send me a pm and I'll send you the link.
So, I am a senior in high school. A friend and I are both participating in a BOCES program, which we carpool to together along with a girl from our school. Long story short, I fell in love with him, it took me a long time to realize I was in love with him, and then an even longer time for me to start to believe that, based on many of his actions, he liked me two. We had one aim conversation that went very badly, because I was trying to get him to admit that he liked me and things were awkward for a few days but soon got back to normal. About a month ago I decided to tell him I liked him, but he told me that he wasn't gay and didn't have any feelings of affection towards me. HOWEVER: four days later, on a school field trip (3 guys, two beds in the motel room), he chose to share a bed with me the first night, which was not something I would have expected. Also, I've noticed him looking at me when he thinks I'm not looking at him. Generally, it seems he is acting way to comfortable around me.
He isn't the kind of person who most people would think is perfectly straight. He is quite metro, and usually dresses in khakis and argyle sweaters. (on a side note, today he wore light pink shorts and a yellow polo that made him look like a package of starbursts). Also, he is our class's prom king and very athletic, yet he turned down the only girl I am aware of him considering a relationship with in order to stay friends with her for the rest of his life.
I know the simple answer is he just doesn't like me 'cause he told me so, but as his close friend that just doesn't seem like the whole story. I was wondering if anyone here had any experience with a situation like this? I would be more than happy to answer any clarifying questions.
Thank you!!
So, I am a senior in high school. A friend and I are both participating in a BOCES program, which we carpool to together along with a girl from our school. Long story short, I fell in love with him, it took me a long time to realize I was in love with him, and then an even longer time for me to start to believe that, based on many of his actions, he liked me two. We had one aim conversation that went very badly, because I was trying to get him to admit that he liked me and things were awkward for a few days but soon got back to normal. About a month ago I decided to tell him I liked him, but he told me that he wasn't gay and didn't have any feelings of affection towards me. HOWEVER: four days later, on a school field trip (3 guys, two beds in the motel room), he chose to share a bed with me the first night, which was not something I would have expected. Also, I've noticed him looking at me when he thinks I'm not looking at him. Generally, it seems he is acting way to comfortable around me.
He isn't the kind of person who most people would think is perfectly straight. He is quite metro, and usually dresses in khakis and argyle sweaters. (on a side note, today he wore light pink shorts and a yellow polo that made him look like a package of starbursts). Also, he is our class's prom king and very athletic, yet he turned down the only girl I am aware of him considering a relationship with in order to stay friends with her for the rest of his life.
I know the simple answer is he just doesn't like me 'cause he told me so, but as his close friend that just doesn't seem like the whole story. I was wondering if anyone here had any experience with a situation like this? I would be more than happy to answer any clarifying questions.
Thank you!!