Gay/Straight friendship complications

[LorZod]

OK, so here's my problem. I have a straight male friend that I've become very close with in the last year or so and we had formed a brother-like relationship. This was cool and I was happy with how everything was. My friend, however, has taken things in a sexual direction and I'm lost now. Nothing has actually happened physically between us and it never will. He's made it very clear he's 100% heterosexual, but.. he's shared intimate details about himself with me w/o any prompting and has begun to tease me by intentionally bending over in front of me (which is no big deal honestly) and holding things so that I look at his crotch (which effects me). So basically, it's taken our friendship from just being a friendship to a sexual direction that I don't want to go down and I don't think he does either (Or at least he says he doesn't). I just wanna be friends with the kid. I have had way too many problems with straight male friends who have gone this direction in the past and I just want to get back on the solely friend level and get rid of all the sexual tension completely.

I honestly feel bad since the vast majority of male friends I've had in the past, I've had some sort of sexual attraction to and I was feeling good that our friendship was completely void of this and then he inserted it in. I just don't know how to fix this.. Any ideas?

[Genersis]

Tell him to stop. And make it clear that you want it to STOP, FULL STOP.
Its not nice if he is teasing you sexualy. Even if it is unintentional/he doesn't mean it.

[marshlander]

What has he said when you've discussed your dilemma with him?

[fenris]

Make it clear, that you don´t want it, that he should respect you and your personality like you do it to him. Teasing like you describe it, shows - on my opinion - that he hasn´t really understand the very small border between good/best friends and irreverence.

[LorZod]

I guess part of the problem and I didn't explain this very well in the first post is that now that the cat is out of the bag, I have begun to see him in a more sexual manner. I find myself being vastly more flirtatious with him than I actually intended and well I've had a fantasy or two about him.

We have talked and he's apologized, but yeah.. it's kind of a little too late.

[fenris]

I guess part of the problem and I didn't explain this very well in the first post is that now that the cat is out of the bag, I have begun to see him in a more sexual manner. I find myself being vastly more flirtatious with him than I actually intended and well I've had a fantasy or two about him.

We have talked and he's apologized, but yeah.. it's kind of a little too late.

I think, there is nothing to late at this early point ... but you both must get very fast back to the basic - the friendship. And watch out, that you both never get back to a point with flirting and teasing, or it will hurt your feelings and one day maybe destroy the friendship.

[SlipknotRlZZ]

I understand that you probably really want just friendship with the guy, but do you really think that if anything sexual happened between you two, it would spoil your friendship?

[Vikta]

I don't think there's a right or wrong way of going about it so long as you both understand the implications... if preserving the friendship is more important than 'experimenting' with a straight guy, then you draw some boundaries... That part of it is a choice...

good luck

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