Through the week I am happy in my job - I love my job and feel productive and satisfied with life. However when it comes to weekends all this goes. I spend my time stuck to the PC screen feeling lonely, trying to make connections with gay people from the internet *sigh*. I am reminded that my 2 best friends live in other countries; the few friends that live near me are not really emotionally close enough for me to PROPERLY talk to; of the 3 GAY friends I have - 2 live at a bit of a distance, 1 is my ex and I feel he tries to keep me at a distance even though we are supposed to be dear friends, and the 1 who lives near me is really pissing me off and seems to take humour from that; I am too cautious about going out at weekend evenings since I was beaten up in a night club and I have not been out for ages, I can't even walk around town anymore without constantly looking over my shoulder and watching everyone that goes past. I don't feel like I really have anyone besides my mum. :frown:
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It may help if you felt able to post the name of the area where you live. Maybe then someone would be moved to get in touch.
Best wishes.
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Hey anon poster
I feel the same way. gosh you were beaten up in a bar? That is terrifying. i know how it feels to be scared in certain areas. some people i've met have met friends via hooking up, and then getting along as friends.
sorry i wish u the best. i am spending this holiday with a cousin.. but otherwise, yeah, i'd be alone and aimless on my weekend. its hard to get out there alone and feel like u belong anyway.
hugs
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Anon, my 2 cents.
You have to kill off the loneliness by overcoming that ugly night club experience that you had. Going to a night club is not the only outing you can do on the weekend to meet people. There are many ways.
What's your hobby? Dancing? Join a dance class. Nature? Join a hiking trip. Chess? Chess club. And so on.
Aha! How about this. Christmas is coming by, right? Is there a shelter for poor folks at your place? Volunteer yourself.
If you would like to meet gay friends then maybe you can join a gay community at your neighborhood.
Be firm with your intention to want to get rid of your loneliness. I have this one quote that I always keep in mind, which is "Just do it". Don't give any excuses whatsoever, just do it.
Forgot to mention. Remember, believe in yourself that you are badass and awesome. You can defeat your loneliness.
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