I know this sounds weird, but I'M SO LONELY!

[JJLive]

Aw mate!

You need to throw yourself out there! Internet dating is rubbish for someone that's only recently out! You need to get yourself out there and test the water! I'm not saying youve gotta get out there and sleep with everything that moves, just go out, have a few drinks, relax yourself, and get chatting to some guys. Take a friend if it helps, that's how i did it, i took my best friend out with me when i first went out, and now shes a complete scene queen, everybody calls her the number 1 fag hag for our area!

x

[JJLive]

Why do i keep getting a message saying i need approving by a moderator??

[toomuch45]

yo your the same as me i feel your pain i hope you find someone
*hugs

[OrphanPip]

You can't wait around, you gotta be pro-active. The dating site is a good start, but if you didn't get any responses maybe you should also consider contacting other people. People coming to you is definitely less nerve wracking, but it doesn't hurt to approach others, the worse they can do is ignore you.

[Evilbunnie]

[COLOR="Magenta"]I've been there before... it is a miserable state, but it gets better. I got to the point where I was skipping from the wrong guy to the next wrong guy to the next wrong guy to... you get the picture. Each time I'd fool myself into thinking there was some potential where there was none, when the truth was that affection from anyone was preferable to being alone. Nothing could be further from the truth. It's like a baby getting a pacifier when what he needs is a bottle of milk. You get that affection from anyone and you get home and you feel just as lonely and empty as ya did before, because it never feels real until it's affection from someone you really have strong feeling for.

You really have to learn how to love being with yourself... I used to think that was such a load of bullshit, but it turns out that when you're cool, confident, and happy being with yourself if you have to it sparks curiousity in others. Definitely find a hobby or activity that people do in groups and be willing to try new things, and be sure to go where the guys are, and male friends with TONS of girls because they usually know cute guys. Never turn down an invitation to a party, if you get there and you don't like it you can always leave... and learn how to bullshit your way through a conversation, small talk eventually leads to bigger things. Other then that, cast a wide net... put yourself on every dating site you can think of. Eventually the right guy'll come along. Congtratulations on coming out, and happy hunting![/COLOR]

[cry0s]

Why do i keep getting a message saying i need approving by a moderator??

because.............. you fail . lol j/k

Anyway..

mattm816,

I understand what it's like to feel lonely, it is most definitely no fun, but you have to look at the bright side of things! You recently became true to yourself, got something off of your chest that has been eating away at you for a very long time, and now have the opportunity to start a new life! It's a turning point that most everyone gets to at one point or another and the hunger inside of you has finally surfaced. There's some great advice in this thread. Perhaps now is the time that you can look to start doing some of the things that you've always wanted to do but held back for various reasons. Perhaps it's even time to realize that it's your life and you can do whatever you want to do.

When we spend a good portion of time feeling imprisoned due to own personal inner conflicts, it's very natural to want everything, especially a relationship, right off the get go. That happens because it's finally 'ok' and not the taboo secret that we hide deep inside ourselves. Get out, have some fun, and start living. When that happens you'll meet new people and you never know what you'll find right around the corner

[The Virgin]

visiting to a gay club or gay bar may come in handy....

[LiZaRD_PlaNET]

visiting to a gay club or gay bar may come in handy....

That's probably more if you want casual sex. Isn't that the reason why one would go to these places.

Anyway, everyone feels lonely sometime. I've never been in a relationship either. Most of the guys I've met were assholes. I'm in no hurry. For someone who had just come out, it's good that you'd want a lasting relationship, but you would probably want to experiment a bit. You won't find Mr. Right the first try, so might as well enjoy it.

[East]

The loneliest time in my life was when I was actually with someone...we had nothing in common and it was hell. Don't make the mistake of thinking someone else will fill the void because it may make it worse.

[The Virgin]

now i feel lonely and i don't know why.....