Met the hottie in a public store now I need help!

[musicman2229]

i have to disagree=============== because the guys i am mostly attracted to are real men. but they will NEVER like me the same way i like them. so this is the main reason for gay men suicide i think

I'm itching for an argument, but considering that you are clearly in a bad place right now mentally and emotionally, I will settle for agreeing to disagree. I hope you find happiness, and good luck with your crush.

[Iamwhoiam2011]

I'm itching for an argument, but considering that you are clearly in a bad place right now mentally and emotionally, I will settle for agreeing to disagree. I hope you find happiness, and good luck with your crush.

in a bad place?

can you elaborate?

[musicman2229]

You just don't seem like you're thinking straight. Being infatuated with someone, as you seem to be with this person you like, tends to make people think irrationally. I know I have spent many sleepless nights ignoring all of the great things in my life because of that one guy I really wanted and couldn't have. It seems like this is what you are going through right now, and because I have felt this many times myself, I can understand where you are coming from. Live emotionally, but act intelligently, lest your emotions prompt you to do something you will regret. We tend to make bad choices when acting on hormones.

[Iamwhoiam2011]

You just don't seem like you're thinking straight. Being infatuated with someone, as you seem to be with this person you like, tends to make people think irrationally. I know I have spent many sleepless nights ignoring all of the great things in my life because of that one guy I really wanted and couldn't have. It seems like this is what you are going through right now, and because I have felt this many times myself, I can understand where you are coming from. Live emotionally, but act intelligently, lest your emotions prompt you to do something you will regret. We tend to make bad choices when acting on hormones.

you are exactly right. thats how i feel now....

i wont let my emotions lead me do the wrong things BUT when you truly like someone, you cannot control yourself..... if we even control this, life has lost its meaning..... dont u think so? we live for love

[sweetlad2010]

Its like last night me and this other guy couldnt keep our eyes off each other lol!!

Always find stuff like that still feels strange but I enjoyed it lol!!

[musicman2229]

when you truly like someone, you cannot control yourself..... if we even control this, life has lost its meaning..... dont u think so? we live for love

I think that's fine, provided you aren't hurting yourself or others. That was more what I was getting at.

Living for love? I would love to believe that. I've never known what it's like to love someone romantically and have them love you back. At this point in time I live for other things, and hope that love finds its way into my life eventually. But this isn't my thread. I'll shut up now. Good luck, Iamwhoiam.

[72jay]

There was a guy that worked at a local garden center who I considered a hottie. From the first time I saw him I wanted to get to know him.

Whenever i went there (about once a month) i'd wonder around just looking at the plants and to see if he was there (which he usually was )
But when he'd ask if i needed help finding anything i'd say "just looking" (my standard response to that question at any store unless I truly need help LOL) I always wanted to try & think of something to say to that guy but never could.
There were a couple times he also just smiled and said hi, which i'd smile & say hi back...I had to make a point not to stare or look too long.
I kinda got the feeling he might be interested (can't really explain, just this feeling I got down inside)

I never said or did anything or made a move of any sort (way way to afraid/shy to do that). Sadly i don't think he works there anymore since I haven't seen him in awhile So if there was even a remote chance I lost it...
(but it could always be that he just doesn't work fridays anymore)

[Iamwhoiam2011]

There was a guy that worked at a local garden center who I considered a hottie. From the first time I saw him I wanted to get to know him.

Whenever i went there (about once a month) i'd wonder around just looking at the plants and to see if he was there (which he usually was )
But when he'd ask if i needed help finding anything i'd say "just looking" (my standard response to that question at any store unless I truly need help LOL) I always wanted to try & think of something to say to that guy but never could.
There were a couple times he also just smiled and said hi, which i'd smile & say hi back...I had to make a point not to stare or look too long.
I kinda got the feeling he might be interested (can't really explain, just this feeling I got down inside)

I never said or did anything or made a move of any sort (way way to afraid/shy to do that). Sadly i don't think he works there anymore since I haven't seen him in awhile So if there was even a remote chance I lost it...
(but it could always be that he just doesn't work fridays anymore)

i would rather try. otherwise, you will regret when you close your eyes in life....

[Iamwhoiam2011]

I think that's fine, provided you aren't hurting yourself or others. That was more what I was getting at.

Living for love? I would love to believe that. I've never known what it's like to love someone romantically and have them love you back. At this point in time I live for other things, and hope that love finds its way into my life eventually. But this isn't my thread. I'll shut up now. Good luck, Iamwhoiam.

dont worry there is no wrong answer in this i guess...

but i dont think that hurt is avoidable....esp. me.... he probably will never get hurt coz he is the one being pursued lol
but for me 50 50 chance i will get hurt.... but i still need to try

[Tsizzle]

You just don't seem like you're thinking straight. Being infatuated with someone, as you seem to be with this person you like, tends to make people think irrationally. I know I have spent many sleepless nights ignoring all of the great things in my life because of that one guy I really wanted and couldn't have. It seems like this is what you are going through right now, and because I have felt this many times myself, I can understand where you are coming from. Live emotionally, but act intelligently, lest your emotions prompt you to do something you will regret. We tend to make bad choices when acting on hormones.

Glad you put it that way musicman2229. Your words made total sense. I'm glad IamwhoIam2011 understood what you meant as well and did not take it as an attack. Lots of guys here are just trying to help each other. So no need for arguments etc. just simple discussion. Peace.