Had Gay Sex and Scared

[blake]

I'm essentially a straight man. I generally am attracted to women and have had girlfriends happily. Recently I started thinking about sex with men and I jacked off to some gay porn, but I was not really intending to do it. I just got back to college and I decided to hang out with a gay friend of mine last night. We had some drinks, I got horny, asked him back to my place, and we did it.

It's like my greatest fantasy that I would never want to play out just got played out. I'm sexually really excited that it happened, but I'm horrified by what I did. He did me in the butt and it wasn't quite what I'd intended on doing, but I really enjoyed it even though it hurt like a bitch. We used protection and I had wanted something like this to happen so I'm not blaming him or anything, but I just am not ready to face having done it if that makes any sense. Am I a whore? Am I gay? Do I need to return this guy's favor and fuck him in the ass tomorrow? What if this gets out and all the women don't like me anymore?

[jeffrey]

I think you're worrying too much. You guys were safe and there was no harm done. If you really like this guy and he would like you to return the favour, then that's something you might want to consider. Who knows, you might develop a really good relationship. Good relationships are very hard to find.

[posterpicture]

You should find yourself the answer for other question ( especially "am I gay?" ) you are the only one will be able to answer it.

What if this gets out and all the women don't like me anymore?

For this question, lol, I am gay and the ladies still like.
You have fantasy of having sex with a gay man and so do the ladies.

[marshlander]

You are not a whore. I've no idea whether you are gay. You do not need to return any "favours"; however, it's an option if you both decide you would like to. ALL the women? Come on, you're not serious. Nobody knows that many people!

Honestly, this sounds like panic. If you can, take a step back and a deep breath. You're twenty-one and probably about as horny as you're going to get, you are curious about your sexuality, you had "a few drinks" and a golden opportunity was handed you on a plate. No one was hurt (much) and you seemed to enjoy what happened at the time.

The voices in your head are probably the ones you have grown up with and have heard all your life - at school, at church, in the press, from every loony politician who knows how to get a few extra votes ... see where I'm going?

If it stops here, you can put it all down to experience. If you decide that your direction is one that includes sexual relationships with men and women, play nicely. If, however, you feel yourself being drawn increasingly towards men that is who you are and welcome to the club.

Give yourself a break, eh

[blake]

He just texted me. "hey had fun last night, not busy all evening if you want to come over"

Half of me really wants to just flush this phone down the toilet and the other wants to text back. Do you think he wants to go on a legit date now or just do me again? I'll admit I did like what happened, at least I found it pleasurable, but I'm scared that he will get the idea that I'm good to date a guy for long term stuff and I can't do that! He's legit gay so he'd probably be okay with a long term relationship with a guy, but I'm not. What do you think he wants?

[posterpicture]

He just texted me. "hey had fun last night, not busy all evening if you want to come over"

Half of me really wants to just flush this phone down the toilet and the other wants to text back. Do you think he wants to go on a legit date now or just do me again? I'll admit I did like what happened, at least I found it pleasurable, but I'm scared that he will get the idea that I'm good to date a guy for long term stuff and I can't do that! He's legit gay so he'd probably be okay with a long term relationship with a guy, but I'm not. What do you think he wants?

Not all gay guys fall for someone just because they mess around. Indeed, most relationship based on sex won't work. Gay or straight the rule of "not having sex on the first date" counts. So I don't see why you have to be scared that he wants to date you.
If you like what happened then go for it. Have a good time, enjoy yourself, forget the bs.
If you are not ready but want this to be a regular thing then make it clear to the guy that you guys are "fuck buddies"

[blake]

I responded and I'm going to his place at 7 tonight. This is all happening so fast I can't quite grasp it yet. What is considered "etiquette" for fuck buddies? Like am I supposed to leave once we're done having sex?

[SlipknotRlZZ]

Dude, if it will make you happy to have sex with that guy, totally go for it. Maybe it will make you Bisexual, at the most. And girls wont stop liking you magically...go with what will make you happy...

[TheDeac]

There isn't really a fuck buddy "code" each situation is unique do what y'all enjoy if it's sex and leave do it if it's hanging out with sex thrown in go for it the most important thing is to just do what makes you happy.

[marshlander]

Try talking to him as well. You might find out if his intentions are purely dishonourable!