I moved into my dorm several weeks ago. My roommate is bi and i really like him, but i don't think that he is interested in me at all. I talk will a few of my friends and they think that he was sending a few signs but i missed them. I want to tell he how i feel but i don't want to make it awkward to live with him for the rest of the year. Have any of you been through similar experiences? How did you deal with it? I really like him and don't want to mess up our friendship at all.
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If you both know each others sexuality, why don't you just ask him out to a movie or for lunch or something to relax together and perhaps get the conversation going.
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I've heard of situations that ended up being awkward because both people do like each other, but neither of them do anything about it because they are both afraid that the other is going to feel weird about it.
It if were me, I'd try throwing in some compliments here and there about how he looks or something and see how he reacts. Also, as latebloomer said, humor works well. I tend to use those jokes that aren't really jokes. Everybody knows those; they're declarations of interest disguised as a joke. These are great because if the person has half a brain he'd get a clue, and since it's a joke it also gives him the option of pretending it was just a joke if he's not interested.
If you afraid to come right out and tell him, a good idea would be to make it easier for him to open up if he is in fact in interested in you. How about going out with him as friends to a bar or a movie or lunch or something? Just keep a good, friendly relationship going. If you do that, and he likes you, it will eventually come out.
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You're in a brand new life experience...my advice, be his roomate and friend. There's too much to risk trying to get into a relationship right out of the gate! You're there for your education - stay focused, be his buddy and if things develop naturally, fine...but don't push it.
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i am liking the direct approach here too. get with him in a situation he cant escape (in a car or in the room late at night) and talk to him how your a gay boy having a crush on his room mate. how you would like to ask him out on a date.
-maybe he would feel more comftorable dating you if you were not room mates.
-you have to room with this person for a whole semester or more so consider jumping ship now. hit reset and move on but talk to him your feelings before you do this, do this saying its your decision no recourse.
-if he was gay and you too dosnt mean you have to like each other.
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OK, I'm sure that he knows now. I went to tell him and part was through I chickened out and ask if he wanted head instead. For some reason it was easier to ask that then tell him anything else. It probably wasn't the best way to do it, but whatever can't change the past.
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you asked if he wanted head? lol. Well like you said he knows now. How did he act when you asked him?
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