Dooooomed! To never have a *real* boyfriend/partner, ever?

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I'm getting frustrated, guys. I feel like I'm swimming around in a fish bowl with no way out. I've been beyond patient, but I honestly don't know what I can do to change my odds.

Move here and we can be boyfriend.
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I totally understand how you feel. "swimming around in a fish bowl with no way out" is exactly the term.
From what you describe, I think we share the some common ground.
Like me describe my situation also. I am in my early 20 and in the middle of my college career. I am not a super pretty guy who can bright up the room as he walks in but I do receive the comment "cute" often. As for personality, I am out going and I have a handful of common interests with both gay and straight guys ( movies, theater, mix drinks, ...). I am almost done with college and my major is competitive so I consider myself as a guy who have a future.
I am out to tons of people at my school and know a handful amount of gay guys. I attend GLBT social events occasionally and I get invited to private gay parties sometimes. I visit bar and club at least 2 times a month and always have fun there but never something serious. I have tried occupied, a4a, grinder,... but they don't' seem like a suitable place to get a relationship.

After asking the same questions that you asked to many people. I learn that in this situation we are doing everything right. However, shit happens so the only option is to give it more time.
I know it 's hard to wait more when you are like: "my life only needs a relationship to be completed".
Everything that thought crosses my mind, I give myself a self-talk :" Maybe I need to COMPLETE myself first before someone can come to complete me". And I channel that energy to good work on myself like going to the gym, read books, or just buy myself something nice to wear.

Don't really know what else I can tell you, but when I read your post, it ensures me that there are still decent guys out there who are looking for their second half like I am.
So good luck.

P.s: my last words, NEVER settle yourself for LESS. If you know that you are a decent guy then wait for the other decent guy to come.