09-30-2011, 08:48 AM
Drew Wrote:I have problems......when I'm with a partner, sometimes, getting off (TMI?), so my best orgasms, anyways, are usually of solitary nature. I have a Fleshlight but only occasionally use it.....they're not tight enough for me. They're nice if I like a different sensation.
A dildo, well....that's a whole other story. Depends if you get off thinking of yourself as a bottom and being submissive. Try fingers first; if you like that sensation thread lightly with the dildo. Stimulation of the prostrate has been know to cause male orgasm/ejaculation, but everyone is different (it can be hot for me, but I've never gotten off on it alone, on the occasions I do do that).
I used to have issues with this. I found that I was being too self conscious, constantly thinking in abstract terms of what I was doing, what the other person wanted, really just having a hard time being comfortable and "in the moment". Relaxing and letting go of that "meta state", for a lack of a better term, certainly helped me in my sex life. It was a relief, as at that time, I thought I had something wrong with me.