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Is he straight or what??
#1
Long story short, my best friend has a friend who used to be her boyfriend, but now they're just good friends. I didn't know him when they were dating. He lives in a different city, and came to visit this past week. He stayed with us, but since she had things to do all week, him and I spent most of his time here together. At first it was kind of odd because I'm playing host to this guy I'd never met before, but we hit it off really well and realised that we have a lot in common other than our mutual friend.

Back story: He has tried doing some things with another guy in the past, but said he didn't like it. Nevertheless, he's tried.

After the first day or 2, he started nonchalantly flirting... "jokingly" saying "let's watch porn" when it's just he and I, or holding me around my waste when trying to "squeeze by me"...even though he didn't have much squeezing to do. BUT when my best friend was around, he would do nothing of the sort. He would, however, kiss her and so on.

One night we had a bunch of people over and after a long night of partying we were all massaging each other. Since I'm an LMT he wanted me to offer one to him. I did, but nothing came of it. A few nights later, my best friend went to bed early and it was just he and I. He asked for another massage, but wanted to do it in my room. Even though I think he's gorgeous, I didn't plan on trying anything. As I was working on his legs, he got "excited", and didn't bother trying to hide it. Then, when I was working on his back, he reached over and grabbed my... We ended up making out and "going to 3rd base". I didn't force any of it on him, I only did whatever he wanted to do. I was afraid of him getting all weird about it afterwards, but we cleaned up, sat and talked for a few more hours. He even laid on my chest for a long while.

Before going to bed that night, he made it a point to say that my best friend need not know what happened that night. I agreed.

I know he calls himself "straight", but between his past experiences, and what he did with me, I don't see that as the case. Do you's think I'm right in assuming that he's rather not ready, or afraid to come out as liking more than just women?

We never did anything else after that night, but, as before, when it was he and I alone, he acted differently than when my best friend was there. Almost like he wasn't being himself around her. We went to the club last night, and he was dancing and grinding all over her...but staring at me while he was... ummm....?

He's gone back home now, and the goodbye at the airport was very awkward. I hugged him, and he kind of stared into my eyes for a good few seconds before turning away.

With all that said, what would be the best thing to do now? Should I keep talking to him like nothing happened... not talk / text unless he does first... try to talk about what happened...? I do like the guy, but I know he's not ready for anything more than what we've already done. Plus he lives in a different city. lol.

I'm torn because I like the kid, but can't read him. What do you's think?
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#2
Closeted 'straight' men have issues. Consider yourself warned.


I think you had a nice experience and you should leave it at that. If he wants more, then let him pursue the matter. He seems to have no problems in getting what he wants, he knows the tricks and games to play.
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#3
I would let him contact you if he has your info, if you only have his, send a hey did you make it home alright, he may just be exploring himself and his own feelings, he maybe bi, he maybe a late explorer that is actually straight, give him the option of talking to you, James
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#4
Bowyn Aerrow Wrote:Closeted 'straight' men have issues. Consider yourself warned.


I think you had a nice experience and you should leave it at that. If he wants more, then let him pursue the matter. He seems to have no problems in getting what he wants, he knows the tricks and games to play.

Very true, but I don't know if that's the category he falls in. You see, he only plays the "straight" card around my friend. Almost like he's just afraid of coming out to HER in particular. Maybe he's afraid she'll go ape s**t since they dated in the past...:confused:
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#5
James Wrote:I would let him contact you if he has your info, if you only have his, send a hey did you make it home alright, he may just be exploring himself and his own feelings, he maybe bi, he maybe a late explorer that is actually straight, give him the option of talking to you, James

He does have mine. He sent me a text once he landed, been chatting on and off since then.
I'm pretty sure he knows he can confide in me, at least I hope so Smile
Thanks
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#6
Sounds kind of like my bestfriend. he claims to be straight but we have done things that no normal friends would do. He also acts differently around everyone else but when we are alone he hugs and kisses me on the cheek. I think they both may be bi but too afraid to admit it to themselves.
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#7
SleepTalker Wrote:Sounds kind of like my bestfriend. he claims to be straight but we have done things that no normal friends would do. He also acts differently around everyone else but when we are alone he hugs and kisses me on the cheek. I think they both may be bi but too afraid to admit it to themselves.

I don't think he's afraid to admit it to HIMSELF, because if he was, he wouldn't stick around and WANT to cuddle after we hooked up...at least I wouldn't think?
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#8
He almost seems as though he has developed romantic feelings for you. He also seems extremely comfortable with you when y'all are alone. Although this may be true, I wouldn't be persistent or pushy. But you don't really seem like the pushy type anyway. Wait it out. See what becomes of it.

Do you have legit feelings for him already?
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ViolettaAlexis Wrote:He almost seems as though he has developed romantic feelings for you. He also seems extremely comfortable with you when y'all are alone. Although this may be true, I wouldn't be persistent or pushy. But you don't really seem like the pushy type anyway. Wait it out. See what becomes of it.

Do you have legit feelings for him already?

"LEGIT feelings"... hmm well hypothetically speaking, if he decided to come over to my side of the fence I'd definitely attempt dating... or at least go through his "welcome to homosexuality" package with him Confusedmile:
Besides that, I'm kind of doing my part in NOT going "there" with the situation. No sense in it if nothing comes of it, know what I mean?
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#10
Haha. Absolutely. I hate falling for "straight" girls. Bout had it with them bitches. Wink
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