Is the age of nice guys with values dead?
Aries
01-25-2012, 07:58 PM
Hey guys,
Having contributed to a thread last night it made me think is the age of finding a man with manners and good values truly dead? Recently I have found myself becoming more detached from the gay community to the extent where I am starting to hate men and they are starting to disgust me. I don't know it just seems if you go out on the dating scene it seems men are only looking for what is between your legs rather than you as a person. Sometimes I feel old because my friends seem to go out looking for a shag whereas I just go out to socialise and have a drink and nothing else. I just find it laughable sometimes when I hear "oh there is only so long you can go without sex", yeah you can go with out sex, just have some self control and not act like an animal and meet some stranger to have sex with. Personally all my life I have been taught to have manners and to respect myself and uphold a certain standard of behaviour. To me this means not going to a sauna for a random hook up or go surfing the web for men for sex. Personally I love to date someone, get to know them for who they are and then let the relationship and physical aspects develop at their own pace, oh and if a guy talks about his bits on the first, second or even third date this is a red flag to me. By a relationship I mean a monogamous relationship in which two people actually love each other none of this open relationship twaddle. Seriously if there is a need for an open relationship surely the relationship itself is dying and both partners are in serious denial. What ever happened to relationships that were about sacrifice and love ? As for cheating, even if an individual cheated once on me I would kick them to the curb, you clearly didn't love me enough so you slept with another guy. I have seen many gay friends have their partners have a one night slip up and cheated and yet they stay with them? To me they are prolonging the agony out of blind conviction, I just find the fact when they respond with "oh we have been together for x number of years it's a shame to break up" personally I think this is bs, sometimes I feel like saying "your partner is a scumbag and an animal, he doesn't love you or appreciate you move on and stop being pathetic".
Seriously what has happened to the age of manners, traditional family values? I am not an angel by any standards but at his whole thing with hook ups, cheating, open relationships and the like is awfully tacky and scummy. So am I being totally silly? Am I being over the top? Or do I just have an old souklthat doesn't fit in with people of my age? But please tell me, is anyone else out there with the same values I have?
Having contributed to a thread last night it made me think is the age of finding a man with manners and good values truly dead? Recently I have found myself becoming more detached from the gay community to the extent where I am starting to hate men and they are starting to disgust me. I don't know it just seems if you go out on the dating scene it seems men are only looking for what is between your legs rather than you as a person. Sometimes I feel old because my friends seem to go out looking for a shag whereas I just go out to socialise and have a drink and nothing else. I just find it laughable sometimes when I hear "oh there is only so long you can go without sex", yeah you can go with out sex, just have some self control and not act like an animal and meet some stranger to have sex with. Personally all my life I have been taught to have manners and to respect myself and uphold a certain standard of behaviour. To me this means not going to a sauna for a random hook up or go surfing the web for men for sex. Personally I love to date someone, get to know them for who they are and then let the relationship and physical aspects develop at their own pace, oh and if a guy talks about his bits on the first, second or even third date this is a red flag to me. By a relationship I mean a monogamous relationship in which two people actually love each other none of this open relationship twaddle. Seriously if there is a need for an open relationship surely the relationship itself is dying and both partners are in serious denial. What ever happened to relationships that were about sacrifice and love ? As for cheating, even if an individual cheated once on me I would kick them to the curb, you clearly didn't love me enough so you slept with another guy. I have seen many gay friends have their partners have a one night slip up and cheated and yet they stay with them? To me they are prolonging the agony out of blind conviction, I just find the fact when they respond with "oh we have been together for x number of years it's a shame to break up" personally I think this is bs, sometimes I feel like saying "your partner is a scumbag and an animal, he doesn't love you or appreciate you move on and stop being pathetic".
Seriously what has happened to the age of manners, traditional family values? I am not an angel by any standards but at his whole thing with hook ups, cheating, open relationships and the like is awfully tacky and scummy. So am I being totally silly? Am I being over the top? Or do I just have an old souklthat doesn't fit in with people of my age? But please tell me, is anyone else out there with the same values I have?
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