Very Confused guy!!!

[Manchester28uk]

Hi Guys

Just wanting some advice!

I am a straight guy but have recently found my self becoming more and more interested in Gay things, ie porn and chat lines!

I am in a happy relationship for 6 years with a great woman, never had any kind of gay experience (kissing/touching or anything) but for about a year I've been calling gay chat lines and watching gay porn, which really gets me going. I was in Bristol on business a few weeks ago and used a chat line, and was very tempted to have a guy back to my room but didn't. Almost went to a gay bar but didn't have the balls in the end.

I don't fancy men at all but just get really turned on even though I don't fancy guys in the porn.

Anybody got any suggestions??

[pellaz]

welcome to gayspeak

porn is just choreographed dance. There is a lot more to being gay than the sex, which is lovely. Do you get turned on by straight porn too. Are you headed into the 7year itch that is burnt out on the current straight relationship you have going

[LateBloomer]

welcome to gayspeak

porn is just choreographed dance. There is a lot more to being gay than the sex, which is lovely. Do you get turned on by straight porn too. Are you headed into the 7year itch that is burnt out on the current straight relationship you have going

The 7 Year Itch.

Good catch.


My only advice to Manchester is to live one day at a time and to be open to new experiences and ideas. Sooner or later, all will be revealed and you won't understand what the confusion was all about.

It just takes a little time, perspective and patience.
Good luck and welcome to GS.

[Manchester28uk]

Hi,

My relationship with my girlfriend is great, but the sex has all but disappeared in the last 6 months!

Love straight porn too, usually go through spells of watching gay stuff. I am firmly in the midst of one now!

The fay thing does turn me on, but I think it's just a sex thing. As I say I don't find men attractive at all. I've done web cams too with guys.

Just find it all really confusing

[Manchester28uk]

The 7 Year Itch.

Good catch.


My only advice to Manchester is to live one day at a time and to be open to new experiences and ideas. Sooner or later, all will be revealed and you won't understand what the confusion was all about.

It just takes a little time, perspective and patience.
Good luck and welcome to GS.

Thanks!

I really love my gf and wouldnt want to hurt her at all. Had guys try their luck with me before but I really would not know what to do with a guy if I got in a position where sex was on the cards

[Rainbowmum]

Hello Manchester,

First let me say , welcome to GaySpeak.
The best advice I can give you is to be true to yourself .
Break down the taught barriers of "norm" and have a really good soul search.

Hang around for a while , get to know the members here.
We are always here for you if you need to hash things out.

[Manchester28uk]

Thanks again!

Few years ago it wouldn't have entered my head to be turned in by gay things, but I'm finding my self walking down that aisle more and more!

I think I'm 90% straight and 10% gay haha!!

[calicandy70]

As a wife, I have been seeking advice from some of the members here because I have been going something similar with my husband although I caught him in the act emailing someone back and forth. I know you are probably confused and need time to figure things out, but please, if you really love your girlfriend sit down and tell her how you are feeling which I'm sure will be very difficult. Or maybe tell her you need some time apart to figure things out. Don't let her find out like I did. I would have had much more respect for my husband if he would have sat down and just talked to me. It seems you might be on the verge of being unfaithful to her. Once you start spinning a web of lies it gets very difficult to get out of it. Just wanted to give a little advice from the woman's perspective. I'm sure whatever you need to do will become clear soon.

[Manchester28uk]

As a wife, I have been seeking advice from some of the members here because I have been going something similar with my husband although I caught him in the act emailing someone back and forth. I know you are probably confused and need time to figure things out, but please, if you really love your girlfriend sit down and tell her how you are feeling which I'm sure will be very difficult. Or maybe tell her you need some time apart to figure things out. Don't let her find out like I did. I would have had much more respect for my husband if he would have sat down and just talked to me. It seems you might be on the verge of being unfaithful to her. Once you start spinning a web of lies it gets very difficult to get out of it. Just wanted to give a little advice from the woman's perspective. I'm sure whatever you need to do will become clear soon.

Hey!

Like I said I don't think I could go through with anything such as meeting with or messaging guys. At the minute it's just a masturbation/fantasy thing. However I wouldn't want to hurt my gf no matter what!

Sure ur husband feels the same. Maybe it's just a fantasy for him too??

[calicandy70]

I hope I didn't sound accusatory..I just wanted to give a female perspective. I wish my husband held my feelings in such high regards. I'm not sure right now what it is for my husband. He has a history with being unfaithful but with women. This kind threw me for a loop and I wasn't expecting it. Another member suggested this, and I think it's very true, that for him it's just the thrill of the hunt and getting someone to agree to be with him whether it's a woman or man (not to mention being high off of coke when he's doing it). It seems like you have no history of being unfaithful, so it's probably something different for you. Best of luck to you and I'm sure you'll figure things out soon.